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Seasonal Awareness

Seasonal Awareness

My Awareness Calendar reminds me that April, among other things, contains the Awareness Observances of Adopt a Greyhound Month, Global Volunteer Month, Library Snapshot Month, National Pet Month, and Couple...

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A long ago sunrise…

A long ago sunrise…

I happened to be looking for some old files of work that Mario had done for a client years ago. So I hooked up the old external drive that used to be attached to his computer. I’m sure it’s...

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The Satisfaction of Being a Tutor

The Satisfaction of Being a Tutor

It’s fast approaching the conclusion of the tutoring year. This past Tuesday, the tutoring organization directed tutors to conduct the first half of the “post-assessment.” The assessment consists...

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Day in Review

Day in Review

On the 4th Year of Re-membering A Day in Review Writing this post is the last ritual of a day of re-membering the life of Dan Neff. Beloved husband, papa, and grandfather. Greatly missed by many. A good...

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Our Lost Cat

Our Lost Cat

Our cat has been missing for four days, and the anniversary of Tony’s death is in six days. Into that equation go ahead and add that my oldest will be 16 in two days. In summation, I am struggling. I...

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You are “So Strong”

You are “So Strong”

Winn-ie, the tiny puppy I “acquired” during a shopping trip to Winn Dixie has proven to be a smart, sweet and rough and tumble little cutie. She and my big dog, Jackson, continue to forge an adorable...

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Things Left Behind

Things Left Behind

People leave behind an energy. People leave behind ideas. People leave behind accomplishments. People leave behind material things. And people leave behind emotions in others. In the case where someone...

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Fear and Uncertainty

Fear and Uncertainty

Fear and uncertainty.  With countries worldwide trading angry threats, I suddenly feel fearful and uncertain about my future well-being. I struggle to stay focused and calm. Meanwhile, the roiling financial...

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Sixteen increments of 90 days

Sixteen increments of 90 days

= A Very Long Time In just 13 days we arrive at the fourth anniversary of Dan’s death.  Recently, I realized that there have been sixteen “90 day increments” since saying goodbye to...

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Squad Goals

Squad Goals

A week ago, I was wrapping up a long weekend with my widow squad. Ten of us, who over the last 4 years, built a bond at Camp Widow San Diego. The Camp Widow format change was our catalyst to adjust how...

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8 Ways My Perimenopause Journey Reminds Me of My Grief Journey

8 Ways My Perimenopause Journey Reminds Me of My Grief Journey

Experiencing the Sacred Journey of Perimenopause is reminding me of when I began the Sacred Journey of Grief… 1) The FATIGUE… I’m a runner, used to do several half marathons a year. Since I began...

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A Puppy and Springtime Renewal

A Puppy and Springtime Renewal

  What could be more uplifting than an adorable puppy, especially when welcomed during the first week of the lovely month of April? I will add, however, April in Northeast Florida is the equivalent...

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Newly Widowed

Day in Review

Day in Review

On the 4th Year of Re-membering A Day in Review Writing this post is the last ritual of a day of re-membering the life of Dan Neff. Beloved husband, papa, and grandfather. Greatly missed by many. A good...

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Three Reasons

Three Reasons

Why It Works A few of us drove to Palm Springs this week to view Camp Widow: The Documentary at the AmDoc Filmfest. In spite of the fact that two of us have been to camp several times, we both cried during...

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The Story of Three Mothers

The Story of Three Mothers

and a Camp named Widow “Camp Widow is a gathering for widowed people by widowed people. Over the course of three days, attendees speak candidly about death, forge connections with others over shared...

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Why Speak of it?

Why Speak of it?

Why Speak of Them? Does it matter? As a widow of nearly four years, I wonder how many widowed people just tough-it-out and don’t reach out for help during their early days of widowhood. Or, perhaps...

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The Physicality of Grief

The Physicality of Grief

I remember as soon as Mario passed away, I started having weird, unexpected pains. There were these stabbing type of head pains that I’d never really dealt with before. There were unusual body aches...

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Why I Return

Why I Return

to the Work of Grieving Grief work feels overwhelming. It takes courage to step toward the work with all the feelings in the way. Sadness that our person is not there. The strange dance of feeling hope...

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Second career? Or Signs of Sanity?

Second career? Or Signs of Sanity?

The Accidental Skills-Course of Widowhood My husband passed away in April 2021 and since then I’ve been in charge of household mishaps, maintenance, and acts of God such as wind, rain, storm, and...

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On St. Valentine’s Day

On St. Valentine’s Day

A Valentine of the One Left Behind What does one do about Valentine’s day If you are the one left behind? It feels pretty wretched when February returns and Saint Valentine’s Day marks time. “Remember...

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The One and the Many

The One and the Many

Tai Chi and Widowhood The year twenty twenty-five is the year of Tai Chi for me. On Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 10am, my friend and I step into a room with about twenty other seniors and follow the...

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What is Story?

What is Story?

How does story impact grief? The personal narrative of our life, often called Our Story, belongs to only us. Others may have shared life with us, but our perspective and interpretation is ours alone. We...

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A Deeper Look

A Deeper Look

How Am I? Last week’s post skimmed the surface of a deep-dive topic. In some ways, the question “How am I?” is a question relevant in the aftermath of any significant trauma or loss...

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How do we know?

How do we know?

Are we truly getting better? I’m trying to remember what I was looking for when seeking signs that I am doing “better” in the early days of being widowed.  If I remember correctly, I...

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Soaring Spirits Interational

Soaring Spirits Interational

Soaring Spirits builds community. We create, and maintain, innovative peer-based grief support programs for widowed men and women that serve a worldwide population. Based on the powerful connections created by shared experience, we endeavor to ensure that no one need grieve alone.

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Lee is Having Another Birthday

Lee is Having Another Birthday

Lola and I returned home from Tucson around ten days ago.  Predictably, at the end, we were greeted by bumper-to-bumper traffic conditions amidst interminable local construction projects that extended...

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Recycling History

Recycling History

During her recent visit to Tucson, Robyn mentioned that she was scheduled to take a medical test once she returned home.  She was upset by the prospect and visibly concerned. Thankfully, it seems she...

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Western Valentines

Western Valentines

Robyn arrived here in Tucson just before midnight on Saturday.  Through Wednesday afternoon we hiked, shopped, gambled, visited friends, kissed and hugged, and sampled the best that Tucson has to offer,...

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Preparing for the Journey

Preparing for the Journey

Eight days from today Lola the Pup and I bid farewell to Robyn. Then, for the third consecutive year, we’re off to our Winter quarters in the American Southwest.  I take this annual extended journey...

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For Us, An Uneventful New Year

For Us, An Uneventful New Year

Robyn had set her alarm. She wanted to see a local television countdown to the New Year but dozed right through it. Each year her favorite weather gal and handsome on-air partner perform a music and dance...

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A Place in The Sun

A Place in The Sun

Happy Birthday Jackson! Yesterday, Jackson, our local hound-lab mix rescue, turned the Big One according to his adoption records. He was one of a litter of nine brought to the shelter as they struggled...

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Nervous Eating

Nervous Eating

Every day, I see small yellow and red leaves falling in the hundreds, relentless falling leaves coloring the lawn. The geese are gathering. Were they drawn together by chance to form the V-formations cutting...

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Future Inquiries

Future Inquiries

“Are we going to get a stepdad?” my then 7-year-old asked me. It had been less than one month since Tony died. Like all deep questions posed by children, this one was at bedtime. It was a question...

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The Nearly Perfect Weekend

The Nearly Perfect Weekend

On Friday, the weather in New York City was picture-perfect. Warm sunshine reflected off the Hudson and the blue sky was completely cloudless. I chatted with a Louisiana woman, now living in New York City. ...

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Choices and Adjustments

Choices and Adjustments

HI Friends. I feel like a broken record, but once again my apologies for not posting in here the last couple weeks. I really don’t completely forget on purpose. Its just that the last few weeks have...

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Birthday Girl

Birthday Girl

Robyn was born in the 20th Century, the youngest of three children, and not too long before I arrived. She grew up in the big city, attended its public schools, and has a high school diploma to prove it...

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Releasing Some Jealousy

Releasing Some Jealousy

I often notice couples’ togetherness as I travel the spaces of my life as a single person. That’s likely because I am not wholly comfortable in my singlehood. I am independent and capable of being...

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Seasonal Awareness

Seasonal Awareness

My Awareness Calendar reminds me that April, among other things, contains the Awareness Observances of Adopt a Greyhound Month, Global Volunteer Month, Library Snapshot Month, National Pet Month, and Couple...

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Wearing Green Again

Wearing Green Again

Last Monday, should have been my 18th wedding anniversary. I had almost lost sight of its impending arrival. His death anniversary falls on Easter this year. Preparing for that had been taking up my extra...

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A Husky Tale of Great Distraction

A Husky Tale of Great Distraction

I’m drafting this post as I watch the UCONN-Villanova Big East Tournament game.March Madness has begun. If you are into basketball, you understand the amazing legacy of both the UCONN men’s and...

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Valentine Kindness

Valentine Kindness

This was my fourth Valentine’s Day without a Valentine. It was never a huge holiday for us but that doesn’t mean it’s not a reminder of grief. Seeing the advertisements still remind you that your...

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Happy Adoptiversary, Jackson!

Happy Adoptiversary, Jackson!

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. For the widowed, it can be a day as emotionally charged as anniversaries, holiday and birthdates. No matter where you are in your ongoing recovery process, these events...

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Lunar New Year Eve Reflections

Lunar New Year Eve Reflections

As I sit here finishing my preparations for the Lunar New Year tomorrow I can’t help but look back on this past year. Lunar New Year has always been one of the most important holidays to our family next...

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Simple Pleasures

Simple Pleasures

Everyone is ready for January to be over. There are jokes online about how this month feels never ending. Record cold and snow for some of us, and devasting fires for others. It has not been a great month...

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Where Is Dad

Where Is Dad

Each year since Tony died, I have taken the kids on a vacation the week between Christmas and New Years. We’ve been to Disney World, Jamaica, Mexico, and this year I took the boys on their first ever...

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Weather Delays

Weather Delays

I’m sorry, I missed my post last week. The kids and I traveled over the holiday break. We were supposed to be home Saturday night. As luck would have it, there was also ice and snow headed to our hometown...

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The Cycle of Time

The Cycle of Time

And so begins another year. Another year of accepting a reality that looked so different than what I thought life would be. This year seemed to have started off so hectic. From another holiday season where...

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For Us, An Uneventful New Year

For Us, An Uneventful New Year

Robyn had set her alarm. She wanted to see a local television countdown to the New Year but dozed right through it. Each year her favorite weather gal and handsome on-air partner perform a music and dance...

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Another New Year, Another Chapter Without You

Another New Year, Another Chapter Without You

As I sit here on New Year’s Eve reflecting on my day compared to all those past New Year’s Eves I can’t help but daydream about what we would be doing if you were still here today. Thinking...

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Camp Widow®

Camp Widow®

Camp Widow® is a unique and incredible experience. This program provides both practical tools and relevant resources for widowed persons rebuilding their lives in the aftermath of the death of a spouse or partner.

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Day in Review

Day in Review

On the 4th Year of Re-membering A Day in Review Writing this post is the last ritual of a day of re-membering the life of Dan Neff. Beloved husband, papa, and grandfather. Greatly missed by many. A good...

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Our Lost Cat

Our Lost Cat

Our cat has been missing for four days, and the anniversary of Tony’s death is in six days. Into that equation go ahead and add that my oldest will be 16 in two days. In summation, I am struggling. I...

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Sixteen increments of 90 days

Sixteen increments of 90 days

= A Very Long Time In just 13 days we arrive at the fourth anniversary of Dan’s death.  Recently, I realized that there have been sixteen “90 day increments” since saying goodbye to...

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Squad Goals

Squad Goals

A week ago, I was wrapping up a long weekend with my widow squad. Ten of us, who over the last 4 years, built a bond at Camp Widow San Diego. The Camp Widow format change was our catalyst to adjust how...

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Three Reasons

Three Reasons

Why It Works A few of us drove to Palm Springs this week to view Camp Widow: The Documentary at the AmDoc Filmfest. In spite of the fact that two of us have been to camp several times, we both cried during...

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Mourning a Forest

Mourning a Forest

In 2020, my late husband Rich and I purchased a lovely home in a gated community in Southeast Georgia in the quaint and historic city of St. Marys. We weren’t seeking the gated HOA lifestyle, in fact...

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Self Evaluation, Day 1441

Self Evaluation, Day 1441

How am I doing now? . . . 1,441 days since you left. As I move into my fourth year of life without Dan, I wonder . . . how am I doing now? Although Kubler-Ross intended the stages of grief to describe...

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Wearing Green Again

Wearing Green Again

Last Monday, should have been my 18th wedding anniversary. I had almost lost sight of its impending arrival. His death anniversary falls on Easter this year. Preparing for that had been taking up my extra...

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Hi ~ It’s so nice to meet you

Hi ~ It’s so nice to meet you

Hello Fellow Wids!
I live in gratitude to Soaring Spirits for having provided a safe environment to grieve in community, and the many opportunities to heal, grieve, celebrate, connect, all the things!...

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At night, alone.

At night, alone.

I haven’t actually written poetry in decades, but for whatever reason, tonight, I felt this. It popped into my head and I simply typed it out. At night, alone, the quite hum, Computers and all things...

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Putting You to Rest

Putting You to Rest

A repost! Lately, time has seemed to tick by so fast, mostly during these ‘ber’ months. Something this past weekend made me realize how quickly the twins are growing up and how it just feels like each...

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A Husky Tale of Great Distraction

A Husky Tale of Great Distraction

I’m drafting this post as I watch the UCONN-Villanova Big East Tournament game.March Madness has begun. If you are into basketball, you understand the amazing legacy of both the UCONN men’s and...

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Our Lost Cat

Our Lost Cat

Our cat has been missing for four days, and the anniversary of Tony’s death is in six days. Into that equation go ahead and add that my oldest will be 16 in two days. In summation, I am struggling. I...

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Sixteen increments of 90 days

Sixteen increments of 90 days

= A Very Long Time In just 13 days we arrive at the fourth anniversary of Dan’s death.  Recently, I realized that there have been sixteen “90 day increments” since saying goodbye to...

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It’s April again…

It’s April again…

This is a repost as I am away and traveling with my widow crew at the beginning of another April! (posted by Mary Moore Hughes on behalf of Emily) Today marks the beginning of another April. This is THE...

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Becoming a Better Partner… to My Home

Becoming a Better Partner… to My Home

                Yesterday was the 13th anniversary of Lynn and I buying our super sweet, super small, 1950’s “Wonder Years” home. It is in the same neighborhood...

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Wearing Green Again

Wearing Green Again

Last Monday, should have been my 18th wedding anniversary. I had almost lost sight of its impending arrival. His death anniversary falls on Easter this year. Preparing for that had been taking up my extra...

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Putting You to Rest

Putting You to Rest

A repost! Lately, time has seemed to tick by so fast, mostly during these ‘ber’ months. Something this past weekend made me realize how quickly the twins are growing up and how it just feels like each...

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The Dreaded Week

The Dreaded Week

Here we are yet again. Another year. Another death anniversary. As this week began, so did the replays. The replays of each day of this week leading up to Erik’s death. The replay of each detail. Each...

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To my Erik,

To my Erik,

In two weeks it will be three years since you took your last breath. So much has changed since you’ve been gone, yet sometimes it feels as if it was still just yesterday. I still very much feel as if...

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The Dark Day

The Dark Day

A repost as we head into March! As we have now entered the dark month I find myself significantly more anxious during my days, more than I have been for a while. I feel like I have been trying so hard...

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Happy Adoptiversary, Jackson!

Happy Adoptiversary, Jackson!

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. For the widowed, it can be a day as emotionally charged as anniversaries, holiday and birthdates. No matter where you are in your ongoing recovery process, these events...

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Sea of Serendipity

Sea of Serendipity

A repost! Whew! It has been a hectic few weeks. I feel like I’m always in survival go-go-go mode where I’m just going through the motions of doing things without really being fully present in what...

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‘Tis the Tangled Lights

‘Tis the Tangled Lights

A repost – Merry Christmas Eve! And there goes the second December without Erik. This past week has been a whirlwind of emotions. December is always such a hard time. The holiday season starts with...

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The Widowed Resilience Scale

The Widowed Resilience Scale

Resilience is defined as the ability to ‘bounce back’ or recover from a traumatic life event or circumstance. According to the Holmes and Rahe Social Readjustment Scale widowhood rates as one of life’s most challenging experiences. This fact has driven the desire to study resilience in widowhood and identify the ways in which resilience can be built in men and women who have experienced conjugal loss.

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Featured Author

Meet this weeks Widow's Voice author.

Emma Pearson

Emma Pearson

My life is a whirling mix of swishy strands, dark and glowing brightly, rough and silky smooth – all attempting to be seen, felt and integrated at once. Here are some of my themes.

I am British

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