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Imagining Life Today

Imagining Life Today

Perspective. Do you ever have trouble getting your head around the fact that your person is not here? I pause when typing those words because what does “not here” even mean? Not here, even...

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The Impossible Question

The Impossible Question

Lately, I’ve been really struggling with figuring out an answer to “the question”. The question that I keep dreading in the back of my head each day. The question that the twins keep asking more...

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Time

Time

Welp. I wrote this last week and must have forgotten to hit the publish button. Goodness me. So here it is, a week late. In her book, The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin writes, “The days are long,...

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A Toast to My Mom

A Toast to My Mom

In last week’s post, I shared that October First marked my Second Blogaversary here at Widow’s Voice. There are seven of us bloggers in this space, one for each day of the week, walking the Widowed...

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Growth

Growth

One of our favorite campgrounds is a small state park along the Oregon Coast. Mario and I happened upon it one day when we went to check out a lighthouse, which happened to be right next to it. We made...

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A Wake-Up Call

A Wake-Up Call

I’ve mentioned before that I remain young at heart, despite advancing age. However, for a couple of weeks now, I’ve been experiencing an unusual, mildly alarming health issue that has shaken my confidence...

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The Gift of Widowed People

The Gift of Widowed People

On the Road! Last week, I promised a story about a group of widowed folk actively plotting a road trip to (wait for it!) a Pop-Up Camp Widow in Seattle April 2025! Adventure looms! Dreaming opens the door...

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As the Seasons Change

As the Seasons Change

A repost as we get into the holiday season! The reality of the seasons changing is hitting me a little differently this year. This past week we took our family photos for the upcoming season and it was...

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The Twenty-Eighth

The Twenty-Eighth

Today, September 28, marks the 28th Wedding Anniversary of my late husband, Rich, and I. He would pass weeks later on the 28th of October.  This time of year is filled with all those “trippy” memories...

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A Tough Week

A Tough Week

I’m late posting, so apologies there. Since my last post, I found out that the pain I’ve been experiencing is from a pinched nerve in my neck. The fancy name is Cervical Radiculopathy. I have to say,...

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I’m taking this week off from writing to attend to pressing personal business. Today, I’m reprinting a slightly revised version of a piece that appeared here about one year ago, around my sister’s...

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Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

… two stories, one in process. … a story from 2023.                                          Two widows, two rocks, two husbands—integrity twice remembered. It was September...

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Newly Widowed

Imagining Life Today

Imagining Life Today

Perspective. Do you ever have trouble getting your head around the fact that your person is not here? I pause when typing those words because what does “not here” even mean? Not here, even...

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The Gift of Widowed People

The Gift of Widowed People

On the Road! Last week, I promised a story about a group of widowed folk actively plotting a road trip to (wait for it!) a Pop-Up Camp Widow in Seattle April 2025! Adventure looms! Dreaming opens the door...

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Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

… two stories, one in process. … a story from 2023.                                          Two widows, two rocks, two husbands—integrity twice remembered. It was September...

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Good Medicine for the Widowed:

Good Medicine for the Widowed:

The Intentional Community of Soaring Spirits One of the best medicines for widowed people is other widowed people. In Soaring Spirits we have access to Regional Social Groups! These groups exist across...

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How long has it been?

How long has it been?

1,245 Days Borrowing a poem from Mary Oliver to remember you: Not Anyone Who Says   Not anyone who says, “I’m going to be careful and smart in matters of love,” who says, “I’m going...

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Progress Not Perfection

Progress Not Perfection

In Life and In Widow-Dog Training   PART three Last night, I took this picture of Indy as she watched over her territory. This morning, she moved into action mode over the dangerous action of me looking...

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Labs and Wolves:

Labs and Wolves:

PART two   We all come from somewhere, right? When I got an adorable puppy, a Labrador Dog, apparently I also got a Labrador Wolf. The tiny face looking up at me with innocent eyes evolved from a...

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Bringing Up Indy:

Bringing Up Indy:

One Widow and Her Lab PART One Background noise at my house includes scratching, licking, and the occasional squeak of a dog toy. A quiet warning growl followed by an alarmed leap of dog-body in my peripheral...

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Some Days Are Worse Than Others

Some Days Are Worse Than Others

Just ask Alexander! A boy named Alexander had a lot to say about this: I went to sleep with gum in my mouth and now there’s gum in my hair and when I got out of bed this morning, I tripped on the skateboard...

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Camp Widow 2.0

Camp Widow 2.0

We’re Hitting the Road!   If you are brand new here you might be asking What is Camp Widow? “Camp Widow blends elements of three event styles: a conference format, an inspiring retreat,...

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Feeling all the Feels

Feeling all the Feels

How Grief Impacts Feelings At age 26, I received a helpful definition for feelings. You may be thinking that could be a bit late in life to receive information about something that impacts life on a daily...

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2800 A Day

2800 A Day

On July 20th, I walked out of Michele Neff Hernandez’s keynote address at Camp Widow in San Diego to a text message indicating bad news back home. Thankfully, the text indicated my kids were okay. As...

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Soaring Spirits Interational

Soaring Spirits Interational

Soaring Spirits builds community. We create, and maintain, innovative peer-based grief support programs for widowed men and women that serve a worldwide population. Based on the powerful connections created by shared experience, we endeavor to ensure that no one need grieve alone.

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Choices and Adjustments

Choices and Adjustments

HI Friends. I feel like a broken record, but once again my apologies for not posting in here the last couple weeks. I really don’t completely forget on purpose. Its just that the last few weeks have...

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Birthday Girl

Birthday Girl

Robyn was born in the 20th Century, the youngest of three children, and not too long before I arrived. She grew up in the big city, attended its public schools, and has a high school diploma to prove it...

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Releasing Some Jealousy

Releasing Some Jealousy

I often notice couples’ togetherness as I travel the spaces of my life as a single person. That’s likely because I am not wholly comfortable in my singlehood. I am independent and capable of being...

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Every Picture Tells a Story

Every Picture Tells a Story

After Lee died, I was left with the photographs and paintings to lift me if I needed to see her.  To this day, for example, I will take a moment to look at her images when I go down to the basement kitchen...

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The Keys To Happiness

The Keys To Happiness

When my late husband, Rich, learned that I’d never been to the Florida Keys he suggested that we honeymoon there. We were married in New Jersey in late September and I made my first visit to this beautiful...

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Full Circle

Full Circle

Last Wednesday, when I told Robyn that I might make it home in just three days, instead of the usual four or five, I knew accomplishing the feat meant extending each day’s drive by several additional...

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Welcome, Jackson!

Welcome, Jackson!

On Valentine’s Day, a sweet black and white border collie-mix puppy found a new home! Lot’s of love…but not much sleep as to which any puppy raiser can attest. Some asked when they heard...

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Valentine Hugs and Kisses

Valentine Hugs and Kisses

Robyn arrived on Super Bowl Sunday, fresh off visiting her son, her brother, and one of the grandkids in southern California.  Robyn was greeted by a small earthquake upon her arrival there, but I would...

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Enter the Wood Dragon!

Enter the Wood Dragon!

Happy Lunar New Year. This weekend, as millions mingle in Las Vegas for the Super Bowl, another event will be celebrated across the world on an even larger platform! At this moment, millions of people...

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Feeling Dread

Feeling Dread

Lee’s brother and her mom used to regale me with stories of her harrowing first year of life, when, for a time it appears, she hovered above the razor’s edge between life and death.  Happily, for...

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Emergency Room

Emergency Room

This past weekend Robyn, Lola the pup, and I were in the Cleveland area to see our friends Bob and Linda. Early Saturday afternoon, while Lola stayed home to relax, we humans left to eat at a cozy restaurant/gift...

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Green Pastures

Green Pastures

It had rained non-stop from Illinois and Indiana through Ohio and Kentucky, into parts of Tennessee, crisscrossing the Great Smokey Mountains.  A challenging stretch of road for two flatlanders but we...

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As the Seasons Change

As the Seasons Change

A repost as we get into the holiday season! The reality of the seasons changing is hitting me a little differently this year. This past week we took our family photos for the upcoming season and it was...

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Recalling The Jersey Shore

Recalling The Jersey Shore

This Saturday Morning marks the beginning of the Labor Day Weekend which for many brings the unofficial end to Summer 2024 and the official beginning of Local Summer. In places like the Jersey Shore, where...

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July Blues

July Blues

Just like clockwork, another July rolls around. As each year passes, the important dates seem to hold more value as we get further from when Erik was here. July holds so much significance for us. July...

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Fireworks

Fireworks

This is the fourth, 4th of July we’ve celebrated without Tony. It doesn’t feel as devastating as it did the first few years. While it doesn’t hurt like it did in the beginning, I still find myself...

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Hellos and Good-byes

Hellos and Good-byes

Because summer has always been my favorite season, and I strongly dislike cold climates, the Fourth of July had always been one of my favorite holidays growing up in the North. For me, this holiday was...

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Peaceful

Peaceful

Outside of Father’s Day a few weeks ago, I have been feeling relatively at peace. There are likely a few reasons for that feeling. The madness of the last school year is in the rearview mirror. Kid sports...

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That Twin Inevitable Heartbreak

That Twin Inevitable Heartbreak

As a widow, we hear plenty of platitudes. One of them being ‘time will heal all’. It’s one that I truly dislike and still makes me cringe mostly because I don’t believe it’s true. I don’t believe...

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Floating On

Floating On

On Thursday, my family and I paid a loving tribute to my mother when her ashes were interred with my father’s at Saratoga National Cemetery in New York. One year earlier to the day, my father’s Military...

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Approach of Father’s Day

Approach of Father’s Day

As we enter June, my mind starts to think about all things surrounding Father’s Day. It will be our third Father’s Day without Erik. Each year seems to get harder as the twins get older. They have...

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Memorial Day Weekend: A Time For Reflection

Memorial Day Weekend: A Time For Reflection

The Memorial Day Weekend sort of crept up on me this year. Back in my former locale at the Jersey Shore, this weekend ushers in the official start of a short, yet very active, summer season of beaching,...

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The Little Things

The Little Things

A repost! I miss the little things. The things not many people talk about in loss. I don’t just miss my person on holidays, anniversaries, or milestones, but all those in between days. All the in-between...

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When it Rains it Pours

When it Rains it Pours

What a week! Sometimes, life just piles it on, doesn’t it? Last week, was spring break so the kids were home all week. I didn’t take any time off work, so we did our best to balance it all. They ran...

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Camp Widow®

Camp Widow®

Camp Widow® is a unique and incredible experience. This program provides both practical tools and relevant resources for widowed persons rebuilding their lives in the aftermath of the death of a spouse or partner.

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Imagining Life Today

Imagining Life Today

Perspective. Do you ever have trouble getting your head around the fact that your person is not here? I pause when typing those words because what does “not here” even mean? Not here, even...

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The Impossible Question

The Impossible Question

Lately, I’ve been really struggling with figuring out an answer to “the question”. The question that I keep dreading in the back of my head each day. The question that the twins keep asking more...

Read More

Time

Time

Welp. I wrote this last week and must have forgotten to hit the publish button. Goodness me. So here it is, a week late. In her book, The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin writes, “The days are long,...

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A Toast to My Mom

A Toast to My Mom

In last week’s post, I shared that October First marked my Second Blogaversary here at Widow’s Voice. There are seven of us bloggers in this space, one for each day of the week, walking the Widowed...

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The Gift of Widowed People

The Gift of Widowed People

On the Road! Last week, I promised a story about a group of widowed folk actively plotting a road trip to (wait for it!) a Pop-Up Camp Widow in Seattle April 2025! Adventure looms! Dreaming opens the door...

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As the Seasons Change

As the Seasons Change

A repost as we get into the holiday season! The reality of the seasons changing is hitting me a little differently this year. This past week we took our family photos for the upcoming season and it was...

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I’m taking this week off from writing to attend to pressing personal business. Today, I’m reprinting a slightly revised version of a piece that appeared here about one year ago, around my sister’s...

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Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

Camp Widow Serendipity in 2025

… two stories, one in process. … a story from 2023.                                          Two widows, two rocks, two husbands—integrity twice remembered. It was September...

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Tackling Football

Tackling Football

My youngest son was in first grade when his dad passed. In second grade, he started playing flag football. Football quickly became one of his favorite sports. When he was in third grade, he stayed at practice...

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Good Medicine for the Widowed:

Good Medicine for the Widowed:

The Intentional Community of Soaring Spirits One of the best medicines for widowed people is other widowed people. In Soaring Spirits we have access to Regional Social Groups! These groups exist across...

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Bells Ring Again

Bells Ring Again

It feels like it has been nonstop since summer began. I’m finally starting to catch my breath now that school has started again. The start of school always seems to be emotional for most parents. And...

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A Story Unknown

A Story Unknown

At work last week, I had the opportunity to listen to a variety of speakers as part of a day focused on creative renewal. All the speakers were great. However, I was drawn to one named, Suleika Jaouad...

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The Twenty-Eighth

The Twenty-Eighth

Today, September 28, marks the 28th Wedding Anniversary of my late husband, Rich, and I. He would pass weeks later on the 28th of October.  This time of year is filled with all those “trippy” memories...

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Forever 32

Forever 32

I found myself lying wide awake at 10:49 the Monday night before my birthday wishing that midnight just wouldn’t come. And that if it did, that my birthday wish would come true. That when that clock...

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August Slipped Away

August Slipped Away

A repost! Join me next week to read about this year’s birthday. August has always been such a busy month in our lives. Our entire family’s birthdays. Summer plans, parties, trips…memories. This...

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July Blues

July Blues

Just like clockwork, another July rolls around. As each year passes, the important dates seem to hold more value as we get further from when Erik was here. July holds so much significance for us. July...

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Grief Is

Grief Is

Emily is on vacation this week enjoying some time with family. I love this post from her titled Grief Is, a poem Emily wrote near the first anniversary of Tony’s death. ~ Mary Moore Hughes Grief...

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Sea of Serendipity

Sea of Serendipity

Whew! It has been a hectic few weeks. I feel like I’m always in survival go-go-go mode where I’m just going through the motions of doing things without really being fully present in what I’m doing...

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Backyard Campout

Backyard Campout

Saturday, I hosted a BBQ backyard campout with my neighborhood crew for the third anniversary of Tony’s death. We gathered in the afternoon and six family’s setup tents to spend the night. Eighteen...

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No Time

No Time

As I started to get ready for bed tonight, I realized it was Monday and I haven’t yet written anything. Our days feel so packed right now I don’t find myself looking too far forward. Which is probably...

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Preparing for the Deathiversary

Preparing for the Deathiversary

The kids and I made a plan for what to do on the upcoming third anniversary of Tony’s death. One of the boys and I were by ourselves driving recently when he asked me about camping.  If we were ever...

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April Again

April Again

Today marks the beginning of another April. This is THE month for me, the one we lost Tony. Last week I was chatting with a friend, and she asked me how I was feeling with the anniversary coming up soon...

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Dear Hubby

Dear Hubby

St. Patrick’s Day 2024 marked two years since Erik took his last breath. This year seemed to be more challenging in different ways than I remembered year one being. It seemed to hit harder and more vivid...

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When it Rains it Pours

When it Rains it Pours

What a week! Sometimes, life just piles it on, doesn’t it? Last week, was spring break so the kids were home all week. I didn’t take any time off work, so we did our best to balance it all. They ran...

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The Widowed Resilience Scale

The Widowed Resilience Scale

Resilience is defined as the ability to ‘bounce back’ or recover from a traumatic life event or circumstance. According to the Holmes and Rahe Social Readjustment Scale widowhood rates as one of life’s most challenging experiences. This fact has driven the desire to study resilience in widowhood and identify the ways in which resilience can be built in men and women who have experienced conjugal loss.

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Featured Author

Meet this weeks Widow's Voice author.

Emma Pearson

Emma Pearson

My life is a whirling mix of swishy strands, dark and glowing brightly, rough and silky smooth – all attempting to be seen, felt and integrated at once. Here are some of my themes.

I am British

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