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About Kathie Neff

Kathie Neff was widowed on April 15, 2021. She and her beloved husband, Dan, were high school sweethearts and enjoyed dancing and riding horses together. They lived in gratitude, hope and forgiveness for 50 years and nine months when Dan passed quietly late at night, surrounded by their seven children who, with Kathie, were caring for him in their family home.

Dan and Kathie have been a part of Camp Widow and Soaring Spirits International since its inception, as members of Michele Neff Hernandez’s cadre of helpers from the Neff family.

Kathie believes strongly in the strength and bond that is the gift of community and brings a heart of love for all who have been affected by death and dying.

Long live love. XO

Both/And

Posted on: February 1, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

Both/And thinking [the opposite of either/or thinking] recognizes the folly of assuming that the new will totally supplant the old. Seeing with Both/And eyes recognizes that two opposite realities can be integrated. Adapted from Daniel Burrus at Burrus Research Today’s repost is certainly one worth sharing again! Today marks two months and two weeks since […]

Categories: Newly Widowed

Inspiration from

Posted on: January 25, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

The Widow Clicquot Who was 4 and a half feet tall with light colored hair and grey eyes and stormed the champagne industry during the French Revolution? That’s right! Barbe-Nicole: The Lady Herself Barbe-Nicole was widowed in 1805, at the age of 23. Women of that time were not allowed to run a business, but […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Community

Mapping Grief:

Posted on: January 18, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

A Man Called Otto. We first meet Otto six months after his wife’s death. With no apparent family, and having cut ties with those he was once close with, a grief-stricken Otto is isolated and in constant pain. He rages like a wounded bull as he goes about his daily life in the tiny neighborhood […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Signs from Loved One

Resilience

Posted on: January 11, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

What is resilience? the Sea asked the Rock   Ask the tree the Rock replied   What is Resilience? the Sea asked the Tree   We are it the Tree replied Sky, Tree, Plants, Rock, and Sea   each in our own way. Keep going.      

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Community

Reflections on Grief

Posted on: January 3, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

From Toko-Pa Turner Gift from the new year — a single piece of paper with quotes about grief from Toko-Pa Turner’s book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home. There is nothing on the paper to say where it came from who typed it if it was a gift to me or . . . ??? I find […]

Categories: Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Milestones, Widowed Emotions

Regrouping After Trauma

Posted on: December 28, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

Step By Step Professionals who write about trauma these days say that when a person experiences a trauma (small or large) it is important to allow the trauma to “keep moving through” our psyche. Last week I experienced a trauma that bumped into a bigger trauma that looms in my life—Death. Death was present in […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Therapy

A Collision of Griefs

Posted on: December 20, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

COLLISION implies the coming together of two or more things with such force that both or all are damaged or their progress is severely impeded. —Merriam Webster Not a great day today. Not an actual collision, but a collision of complications connected with the death of my husband. If I were to name it, were […]

Categories: Widowed, Widowed Emotions

The Longest Night

Posted on: December 14, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

At the winter solstice the Sun travels the shortest path through the sky, and that day therefore has the least daylight and the longest night.  [Editors of Encyclopaedia Britannica] Last night I participated in a meet-up titled Still Point, a reference to that longest night on its way to us. Sixty minutes of spontaneous art shared […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed and Healing

In Between

Posted on: December 7, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

and Betwixt. I’m ill with Covid.   Illness is one of those things; a part of life; an activity of the living.   In between and betwixt countless other dailies that are just for me now.   Tomorrow is back again already.   Trying to stay in the now.   And still keep up as […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Holidays

Early Morning Musings In Between Holidays

Posted on: November 30, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

In 2021, seven months after Dan died, Thanksgiving arrived. In the calendar of our family traditions Christmas arrived just 32 days later. It is hard to believe that this is only the second holiday season since Dan left us. This morning, I am thinking about some who may be reading this that it is their […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Holidays, Widowed Milestones, Widowed Emotions

Rose colored matching man's shirt and a woman's dress

Missing

Posted on: November 22, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

It began with a need for a garment bag the kind from the cleaners with its pre-slit hole for the hanger — dry cleaners size — with child safety warning included.   I doubted I had one but went into my closet searching for a stray lingering on the closet rod.   I notice a […]

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed Holidays, Widowed Signs from Loved One

Art as a Tool for Healing

Posted on: November 8, 2022 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

An Invitation Making art—giving form to the images that arise in our mind’s eye, our dreams, and our everyday lives—is a form of spiritual practice through which knowledge of ourselves can ripen into wisdom.  Pat B. Allen, PhD  Art is a Way of Knowing. There is a hidden secret about art that may benefit those […]

Categories: Widowed, Newly Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Therapy

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