Widow's Voice

Kathie Neff

About Kathie Neff

Kathie Neff was widowed on April 15, 2021. She and her beloved husband, Dan, were high school sweethearts and enjoyed dancing and riding horses together. They lived in gratitude, hope and forgiveness for 50 years and nine months when Dan passed quietly late at night, surrounded by their seven children who, with Kathie, were caring for him in their family home.

Dan and Kathie have been a part of Camp Widow and Soaring Spirits International since its inception, as members of Michele Neff Hernandez’s cadre of helpers from the Neff family.

Kathie believes strongly in the strength and bond that is the gift of community and brings a heart of love for all who have been affected by death and dying.

Long live love. XO

Three Widows and Grief

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One of us was working too hard.   The other was wobbling on the ladder of memories on her death-a-versary.   Each of us with our long list of widow-worries and widowed woes   showed up to help the other.   Being together was unplanned.   Beyond what one might expect,   being together brought […]

Some Days Are Like That

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Trying to roll with it According to experts, fatigue is a very common physical symptom of grief, often experienced as extreme tiredness or exhaustion. This fatigue can manifest in waves and significantly impact daily functioning. –NHS, Cleveland Clinic, and WebMD Three things stand out for me in this quote: A common symptom in grief is […]

I Was Slain

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by Joe Black The movie Meet Joe Black was made in the 90’s when it’s star, Brad Pitt, was only 34 years old. I’d seen the film once, but clearly did not recognize the deeper meanings. This time I was overcome by its layers of goodness. Why would an old film affect me so strongly? […]

The Wonder of a Camp for Widowed People

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Images of Past and Future Dear Widowed Peeps! Wednesday snuck up on me, so I am reposting a blog about attending my first Camp Widow, in correlation with a Camp Widow happening in this very moment, and throughout the weekend, in Toronto, Canada. The Camp Widow experience features the essence of the support offered to […]

Exploring What Might Help

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  Today I wish to offer three simple tools to help those of us who are having an especially “off” day.   Three fresh ideas or strategies for your back pocket at the ready in advance of your need.   Difficult days arrive out of nowhere for new widowed people, or long-time widowed people.   […]

Trusting Me

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Which part of me do I trust?   This is me in grief’s low spaces. Grief stricken. Broken. Vulnerable to pain. Feeling useless. What good is a broken bridge? Can I trust the broken parts of me?       This is me in grief’s growing places. Evidence of my brokenness is visible. Yet I […]