This week, I am waiting for the upside of the grief wave. I can feel myself coming up for air. I am depleted, and I feel like my ability to bounce back is slowing down or something. With all the dates that are heavy and big for us this time of year, and all the […]
Widowed Emotions
It’s been a year of Yin and Yang
shock & grief / hope ~ ups / downs ~ hurt feelings / kindness unexpected disappearances / lovely returns lots of tears / but also some laughter loneliness / community ~ isolation / travel I made it through all of those “firsts” since Jim died – and all of those memories of […]
Widow Friends Expect Less
Recently, I was able to take a quick trip to Las Vegas and catch up with a few of my widow friends. With only 4 of us, we had a small group for this trip. But it always fills my heart to be with them. We came into the weekend with zero plans since in […]
Happy National Black Dog Day! 🐕🦺
I am still not sure how we got so lucky. She came to us two days before our lives were forever changed, and I KNOW she is an angel in a dog’s body. Don’t ask me how I know this -because I don’t know- but tomorrow Thursday is National Black Dog Day. So this beauty […]
Thank You, Calgary
What a perfect place for me to be during this hard week of loss and memories … a beautiful park just a few blocks from my hotel, those incredibly beautiful lakes in and around the Banff National Forest, reconnecting and meeting in person some of the widowed friends I met online back in 2020 during […]
Missing Him Until My End- A Repost
Happy Monday. Emily is off with her widow crew and I hope they are having a wonderful time together, enjoying their connection and being in community. I have always loved this piece she wrote so I am sharing it with you today in her absence. ~Mary Moore Hughes We grieve because we love and […]
Trigger Warning ⚠️
Well, I survived Back to School Night last week. Barely. Last Thursday, after emerging from yet another funk, I showered and got ready for public consumption to go to this thing. I somehow got my cables crossed and got there late after dropping off my daughter at gymnastics 🤸🏻♀️ practice on the other side of […]
This is the week …
Posting this blog 16 years to the day after Vern passed … and spending this important week here in Calgary, Canada, honoring both Vern’s and Jim’s passings. Vern died September 22, 2010 … Jim died September 26, 2025 I do find it rather amazing that my loss dates fall within the same week, as do […]
Vacation Loading…
I will get to see some of my widow friends soon! I cannot wait to give them all hugs and spend a few days catching up in person. But first, we must get there and only one of us has an empty nest. I am looking forward to it, but I have a lot of […]
Falling 🍂
I have always loved fall 🍁 One of our favorite seasons as a family, with the chilly mornings, vibrant colors, coffee, fire pits, pumpkin patches, fall festivals, Halloween and, of course, Thanksgiving. I find it amazing how our bodies and souls, so deeply connected, remember the injuries inflicted on them, as soon as the weather […]
September Morn …
Stay with me awhile I only wanna talk with you Losing Jim has brought back many of the feelings I had when I lost Vern nearly 16 years ago. Of course, those feelings never really went away but were tucked in a safe space most days. Perhaps this is a blessing. Both of my men […]
Substitute for Life 👩🏻🏫
A little over a year after I lost my husband, I also lost my job. The DOGE closing of our main government client, where we provided media training and marketing support in Latin America, did us in. We hung on for about a year without getting paid, hoping and praying that the contracts were going […]