Many years ago, in February of 2005, to be exact, on Superbowl Sunday; Don Shepherd packed up his entire life into a Penske truck attached to his car, and drove with his cat Isabelle in his lap from Florida to New Jersey, to begin a new life with me. Our friends came over to help […]
Interlocking Grief
Lately, Ive been thinking about all the strange ways that grief intersects and interlocks, and how our losses affect us in so many new and different ways as we keep living our lives. I have talked here before about my first love, my first kiss, my high school prom date, the boy I was friends […]
If I Could Tell You
The life of a widow often makes very little sense. The thoughts inside my head often make very little sense. All the things I wish I could tell Don, 13 years later. Many of them would make no sense to tell him, A lot of these things wouldnt even be happening if he were alive, […]
Back and Forth and Back Again
Yesterday was our SSI Regional Group meetup. Four of us met for lunch at a local pizzaria grill type place. My co-leader and I have both been widowed for 12/13 years. The other two ladies that braved the snowy weather yesterday are more newly widowed, both less than a year into this often times unimaginable […]
Being able to Help
Last week, my Uncle Richard died. My dad’s brother, who had dementia for 12 years, lost that battle surrounded by his wife, my Aunt Debbie, and his daughters, my cousins. There will be a memorial service in a couple of weeks, and I have offered to help my Aunt write a eulogy, and Im also […]
The Core Four
Im writing very late today, because I just got home from our holiday weekend. Did not want to forget/neglect writing in here two weeks in a row, so better late than never today. Had our family Christmas this weekend at my parents place on Cape Cod. My niece and nephew couldn’t make it, which was […]
Caregiver
My late husband Don was a caregiver by nature. I know I have said this before, but perhaps not in enough detail or with enough bravado to properly explain how caring and patient and loving he was, and genuinely loved being. Yes, he was in EMS for his career choice, but even aside from that, […]
Peace Circle
Yesterday I had lunch with two dear widow friends that Ive gotten pretty close with. We started talking about how important it has been for each of us in our life after loss, to find a sense of peace in our life and in our surroundings. We talked about how we had no choices in […]
Life Cycles
I had a nice Thanksgiving. Two Thanksgivings, actually. On that day, the weather was bad (rain, sleet, bit of snow), so we pushed our family holiday out by one day so my parents wouldnt have to travel the 2 hours from Cape Cod to come here. Instead, I had an invite to hang with my […]
Friends-giving Feast
Happy Sunday everyone. Today, in a few hours, our Soaring Spirits Regional Group here in central Massachusetts, will be having our annual Friends-giving gathering. In the past, we have gone to a local restaurant and did a thanksgiving style meal, and it was wonderful. But this year, we are doing it differently, and Im really […]
A “Widow” Bit Canadian
“A Widow Bit Canadian.” That is one of the witty t-shirts being sold last weekend at the Camp Widow bookstore, at Camp Widow Toronto. And although I am not Canadian, after attending Camp Widow Toronto multiple times over the years, and falling in love with both the city and the people who live there, I […]
Spending Time Alone, Then and Now
Hello Sunday Readers, Today is a rare day off where I don’t have to leave my apartment or do anything. I have things to get done around my place, but I can stay in my pajamas and take my time with my To-do list, and have the kitty in my lap a good part of […]