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Marking Time

Posted on: December 27, 2023 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

Through Numbers

Abbacus with child's hand atop.
Image by Luis Arias via unsplash.com

This is my 85th blog post as a widow.

By 71 years + 230 days, time marked 32 years since Dan’s first heart attack at age 39.

When he died, we had been married for 18,913 days (50 years + 9 months) when no one thought these two crazy kids would make it to year 10.

Living became possible partly due to 23,360 doses of a handful of pills taken faithfully 2 times a day.

Times he missed taking said pills could be counted on just 1 hand.

Dan lived 5 years longer than the age his father died.

When Daniel Paul Neff died, he was the proud father of 7 children,14 grandchildren, and many beloved adopted children through the years.

Since his death on April 15, 2021, one beloved grandson and one beloved great-grandson were born into our family.

One amazing human.

A beloved man who leaves a great gap in his absence.

On Christmas day, we raised a glass to this great man whom we were blessed to call our own.

We miss you, honey.

Stay near.

 

Categories: Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Anniversaries, Widowed Holidays, Widowed Milestones, Widowed Emotions

About Kathie Neff

Kathie Neff was widowed on April 15, 2021. She and her beloved husband, Dan, were high school sweethearts and enjoyed dancing and riding horses together. They lived in gratitude, hope and forgiveness for 50 years and nine months when Dan passed quietly late at night, surrounded by their seven children who, with Kathie, were caring for him in their family home.

Dan and Kathie have been a part of Camp Widow and Soaring Spirits International since its inception, as members of Michele Neff Hernandez’s cadre of helpers from the Neff family.

Kathie believes strongly in the strength and bond that is the gift of community and brings a heart of love for all who have been affected by death and dying.

Long live love. XO

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