Last week, Tony was supposed to have his 46th birthday, but he is forever 43. Today is my 44th birthday. Each birthday since he passed has been a death milestone. The first one after he passed, then the one where I was as old as he ever will be, and finally now I am older […]
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The Endless Loop
Hello Friends. Happy Sunday. Or peaceful Sunday. Or maybe just “Sunday”, if that’s all you can handle from where you are at in your healing process. I absolutely get it. So, yesterday was a rare day where I didnt have any grief counseling sessions booked, didnt have to facilitate any groups, and didn’t have to […]
Honoring El Dia de Los Muertos
According to the History Channel Website, ‘The Day of the Dead (el Día de los Muertos), is a Mexican holiday where families welcome back the souls of their deceased relatives for a brief reunion that includes food, drink and celebration.’ Later today, I will spend time at a Dia de los Muertos celebration in a […]
The day after.
How many times have you thought back to your “day after”? That day, after your spouse shuffled off their mortal coil and you had to face a whole new life on your own, is not one that’s easily forgotten (even with the passage of time). Every now and then, that first day will pop into […]
Halloween Candy ( Revisited)
I am on the road this week on a new adventure with Robyn and Lola the pup. With “All Hallows’ Eve” taking place this past Tuesday, it seems to me an appropriate time to reprise this seasonal chestnut. — Gary *** Every year about this same time, television stations roll out their catalogues of scary […]
Pursuing the Practical:
What do I need in this moment? Along the path of grieving, I’ve found many practical and proactive steps I can take to avoid trauma and to tune into my needs on a daily basis. With therapy, books, and good teachers along the way, I am learning to respond to what my body, mind, and […]
Another Halloween Without You
Today is Halloween. Yet another holiday that Erik is no longer here for. The days leading up to any holiday always puts me in a strange mood. The anxiety levels become higher than they normally are. The feelings of sadness, anger, disappointment, hope, and everything in between all seem to mix together. Something I still […]
Life in Concert
Since July, I have attended four different concerts headlined by amazing women. I had the privilege of seeing Taylor Swift, The Chicks, Beyonce, and finally, Pink. Each concert was unique and the feelings I took away from each of concert was just as different. However, the Pink Trustfall show this weekend is my standout. I […]
Friends Who Know
Yesterday, we had our Soaring Spirits Regional Group meetup. We do this 2x per month, and usually one is at a restaurant, park, or coffee shop type place; and the other is at a local library where we have a private large room, access to a kitchen, and we can bring food and drink and […]
A New Manifestation
Today is the anniversary date of my husband Rich’s passing. I recently read a Post on the Soaring Spirits International Facebook page that discussed how we deal with “Our Month”, a time of year when we become hyperaware of a difficult milestone. Even if we choose to Power Through and act as if it is […]
Ghost Travels
“Live people ignore the strange and unusual. I myself am strange and unusual.” – Lydia Deetz (Beetlejuice) From a very young age I was always fascinated with the strange and unusual (it’s really no surprise that one of my favorite movies is Beetlejuice). You bet I was watching every “In Search Of…” rerun and begging […]
A Late Breakfast With a Professional Driver
Lee’s brother Paul is a retired fellow who occasionally needed to get out of his house. Therefore, about a year back, he started driving part time, two or three days a week, with Lyft. Paul and Joanne still reside in the suburbs (when not staying at their Michigan lake house), but he drives mainly here […]