There is at least one thing I like about every season of the year … snow in the mountains during the winter, the flowers in spring, the warm summer days … but with the fall, I like it ALL … the colors, the crispness in the air, Halloween, early sunsets, getting to wear all of […]
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In a Nick of Time
Ordinarily, I write my blog contributions on Wednesday for publication on Thursday. However, yesterday I spent a good chunk of time completing a draft of a special project I have been preparing for several weeks. Like a thirsty steer inexorably drawn to water, yesterday I felt compelled to finish that task. And by the time […]
What is a Bad*ss Widowed Person Anyway?
“Badass” (often stylized with an asterisk, like “bad*ss”) is an informal term referring to someone, typically a woman in recent contexts, who is tough, formidable, and indomitable, often in the face of adversity or to challenge norms. (AI Dictionary) What qualifies a widowed person as a bad*ss? A Bad*ss Widowed Person discerns when […]
Ready to Let Go of Tangible Reflections of their Love
Lynn was big on having (over the counter) meds on hand – allergy, flu, tummy ache, headache, etc. She had them organized in plastic bags that she carefully labeled with what they were for. I have struggled all these years with clutter cleaning, getting-rid-of, holding onto things until I am ready to let them go, […]
Navigating the “Tail” of the Timeline
On Thursday, October 9, Quint, my quirky Malti-poo, turned four years old. Quint has played an integral role in my movement, and voyage, forward after the passing of my husband, Rich. On October 8, 2021, I brought Rich to the local ER after a several days of of him not feeling well after we’d returned […]
Contacting Spirits
Now that it’s October and we’re officially into “spooky season”, what better time than to talk about contacting spirits! Often a widowed person (or really anyone who’s lost a loved one) may ask if there is a way to contact the spirit of their loved one. To me, it’s not an unusual question. It’s a […]
When Art Is a Poor Imitation of Life
The other night, I stayed up later than usual to watch the multiple Oscar-nominated film, “Terms of Endearment.” It’s a film based on Larry McMurtry’s book, with one significant difference: The film adds a major character — the middle-aged, former astronaut Garrett Breedlove (played to perfection by Jack Nicholson, who won the Oscar for Best […]
After the Major Transition of Loss
Life Brings Other Transitions I joined the Widow’s Voice team about two months into my loss. Each writer (one for each day of the week) writes about whatever is relevant in their life that week. For about two months now, I have been in a state of transition. Preparing my home for a tenant involved […]
Magical Powers
Today I opened an assignment one of my kids participated in for school. The question posed to these middle schoolers was: If you had to choose one magic power for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why would you choose this power? This assignment was completed on a discussion board of sorts, […]
A Birthday Tribute to My Mom
Tomorrow, October 5th, would have brought the celebration of my mom’s 99th birthday. So many of my good friends lost their moms before they even reached age 30. I know they missed out on having their mothers there for so many family milestones, or just every day nice moments, phone conversations, shopping, lunches, and […]
Advice for the newly widowed …
I started writing here at Widow’s Voice as part of my own journey in this unfortunate “club”. But I also write so that other widowed people may stumble on these ramblings and potentially find some sort of solace or help or at least know that they’re not alone in what they’re going through (even though […]
Family Business
I hadn’t seen Paul and Joanne since their grandson’s birthday party in July, so I was looking forward to having lunch together this past Wednesday. They were both looking fit, I thought, having obviously lost weight since our last encounter. I made a mental note that each had left a few forkfuls of food on […]