Tonight the US men’s team lost their run for the World Cup. It’s disappointing but I’m not crushed. Historically, Tony and I had never been huge soccer fans. This year, I live in one of the World Cup host cities. So, I decided to lean in and embrace what may be opportunities that present themselves […]
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Happy Re-New Year
Good morning. Here I am again writing on a Saturday that happens to be a major American holiday; this one celebrating the 250th anniversary of the USA. As many of us who are widowed know, weekends coinciding with holidays can often prove to be draining instead of festive; delivering a double emotional whammy. I still […]
Numbers, yet again.
You know how people ask, “Is Mercury in retrograde?” when everything seems to be going wrong? Funny thing about that is I was actually born during a Mercury retrograde and my theory is that when it happens, it doesn’t affect me the same way because I came into existence during it (or perhaps I really […]
A Status Report
On this day six years ago, my sweet Lee breathed her last. Her death was not sudden or unexpected. The cancer took its time, forcing us eventually to look past hope. For me, the first real glimmer into a future without Lee occurred a few months earlier, as she began to experience severe and frightening […]
Boundaries? What’s That? 😫
Hola, fellow grieving friends. First and, of obvious utmost importance, 🇲🇽 Mexico’ soccer team made it to the Octavos de Final in the World Cup ⚽️ yesterday and now I’m thinking we could actually win this thing 🏆!!! Ok, maybe not. Most likely not, but still, it is really fun to dream! Ok. This past week […]
Don’t Let the Hard Days Win
I fully expected to be able to write today and share the excursions Sheila and I have taken this week. Instead, my only excursions have been to doctor offices. I am so tired of this. I’m grateful that I’ve been pretty darn healthy most of my 75 years (in spite of my poor eating habits […]
Stressing Again
I was putting my hair up into a ponytail last week and noticed there was a spot that felt almost waxy. The spot was close to the nape of my neck so it took me a minute to process what it could be. Then it hit me. I went straight to a mirror, and it […]
The “Spare Key Theory”
I have read a few varying explanations of The Spare Key Theory. The theory came across my social media sometime, probably because I was reading / finding songs / looking for relatable stories about losing your mother. I’ll add one of the explanations below, but one interpretation I like is: A spare key is the access you […]
Planting Hope With the Tree of Life
Tuesday, June 30th, would’ve been the 66th birthday of my late sister, Manette. Each year, I recount the story of how my horse-loving sister magically acquired a lovely, but feisty, Arabian Quarter Horse mix in 1973 when my family spent 9 months living in Boulder, Colorado. My essay, The Year of the Dream Horse, a […]
Resolve
“He who is firm and resolute in will moulds the world to himself.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe I’m still dealing with my kitty, Freya, who is stumping veterinarians with severe anemia. Everyone has been guessing with a diagnosis of IMHA, or Immune-Mediated Hemolytic Anemia. It’s a scary mouthful and an even scarier and often […]
Sometimes It’s Not the Thought That Counts
Just before Father’s Day, one of my two nephews sent me a text, inquiring whether I planned to join them. I responded, simply asking where and when the festivities would occur. He replied vaguely, “around dinner time,” adding that his brother was supposed to pick the place where we would meet. This was typical of […]
Grief Hangover?🍸
Never Have I Ever… Been drunk in my life. Never, ever, ever, ever. Yep, you heard it here first, folks!!! And I’m thinking that right about now would be a great time to add that ⬆️ to my to-done list ✅. So technically, I don’t know what a hangover really feels like. But if I […]