My cousin asked me once, “Why are you always so happy?” Imagine – a widow being asked that! And, this was shortly after my Mom had passed away. My response to her, without thinking, was “Because all the worst things that can happen have already happened…” She didn’t quite know what to make of it, […]
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100 Years, Honored With Love
My mother passed in February 2024. This Monday, October 5th would’ve marked her 100th birthday. Oh how I wish we could be celebrating that milestone and not just in spirit. My dad passed 11 months prior to her’s and I’m always grateful that she didn’t have to be a widow for too long. He […]
Learning to Be By Yourself
I think this topic hits everyone who finds themselves in the widow club a little differently. I would imagine, widowed folks who have kids at home prioritize their kids and that probably acts as a delayed buffer for emotions related to suddenly being spouse-less. Many of the widows in my in-person group were married for […]
Lazy, Hazy, Crazy Days of Summer No More
Most days, it’s still mild during daylight hours, although recently, in the night air, I feel the merest hint of what is in store for us. Today is the first day of October. We have entered the last quarter of 2026. There is no question about it. Summer here has ended. In a few weeks […]
Happy National Black Dog Day! 🐕🦺
I am still not sure how we got so lucky. She came to us two days before our lives were forever changed, and I KNOW she is an angel in a dog’s body. Don’t ask me how I know this -because I don’t know- but tomorrow Thursday is National Black Dog Day. So this beauty […]
Thank You, Calgary
What a perfect place for me to be during this hard week of loss and memories … a beautiful park just a few blocks from my hotel, those incredibly beautiful lakes in and around the Banff National Forest, reconnecting and meeting in person some of the widowed friends I met online back in 2020 during […]
Missing Him Until My End- A Repost
Happy Monday. Emily is off with her widow crew and I hope they are having a wonderful time together, enjoying their connection and being in community. I have always loved this piece she wrote so I am sharing it with you today in her absence. ~Mary Moore Hughes We grieve because we love and […]
The Power of Keeping Our Memories
I recently watched the movie, “Forgotten Island!” I have been waiting all year to watch this!!! Forgotten Island is a Dreamworks animated movie set in the Philippines about two friends who travel to a mystical island, and encounter our culture’s mythological creatures – many of whom I have been told stories about since I was […]
Rolling on the River
This Monday, September 28th, would’ve been our 30th Wedding Anniversary. What a beautiful day it was spent with our guests on the River Queen on the Manasquan River in New Jersey. Today, while doing some cleaning out, I came upon a framed wedding photo in the drawer of a piece of furniture I am […]
Living with Ghosts
While I’m a firm believer that when we shuffle off our mortal coil, our consciousness and, for lack of a better term, our soul, may continue in some way, this post isn’t really going to talk about ghosts in a paranormal sense but ramble about other types of “ghosts”. You see, there is another way […]
Recalling My Sister
My sister’s birthday took place on September 22nd. She’ll be gone for four years this coming December. As far back as I can remember, my sister was unhappy. I’m not sure why, but I suspect her relationship with our mother was at least a contributing factor to my sister’s lifelong unhappiness. I can’t say with […]
Trigger Warning ⚠️
Well, I survived Back to School Night last week. Barely. Last Thursday, after emerging from yet another funk, I showered and got ready for public consumption to go to this thing. I somehow got my cables crossed and got there late after dropping off my daughter at gymnastics 🤸🏻♀️ practice on the other side of […]