All good things come to an end. Today, I depart Tucson for home. It is early morning and still dark. Even as Lola the pup snoozes peacefully, I will need the next several hours to prepare for our immediate departure, then more hours on the road in the heat of the day to reach Albuquerque. […]
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I’ve Gone Dark.
This week I am in it. 😔 In a funk. The kind you can’t pinpoint to one single thing, just a mix of little and big things that make life feel so heavy and unfair all over again. It feels like a grief hangover. The kind that wants to keep you in bed for days […]
Tears in Heaven
Well, I finally sold the travel trailer. It needed to go … because I won’t be taking it out on the road AND because I need to get it out of the way so Jim’s son can retrieve the cargo trailer that was behind it and pick up the Harley. Mission accomplished. Check received. And […]
We Went to Church
A few weeks ago, I took the boys to Church. And by Church, I mean Eric Church. This was Tony’s favorite singer and every song he released; Tony seemed to identify with more than the last. I don’t think there was a song he didn’t like. Right after Tony passed, tickets for one of his […]
“When Are You Going To Start Living Again?”
My widow group What’sApp chat was a flurry this weekend over one very brief – but very impactful – interaction one of us (not me) had at a party. She was chatting with someone she had not seen since before her partner had passed. Rather quickly, the “friend” said, “When are you going to start […]
Livin’ On a Prayer
I spent a good portion of this past week at my now unoccupied home in Georgia. It’s up for sale and I continue to clean out the garages. The “downside” of a third garage is that there is more opportunity to store and thus hang on to items. It’s a museum of memories, a curated […]
Everybody leaves one day….
As levees are breaking, a flood comes Washes away all the rubble Past indiscretions and stalemates We are all sailing to the gates Everybody leaves one day I know it hurts Everybody goes away You will too, I will too (Ghost) The thing is, everything that lives will leave one day. Death is all around […]
Time to Go Home
Our time here in Tucson is rapidly winding down. In just over a week, Lola the pup and I will embark on our way home. My thoughts start to turn to upcoming adjustments: a return to winter clothing, planning for uncertain, often turbulent weather in early Spring on the road, budgeting for soaring gasoline prices […]
HAPPY? BIRTHDAY TO ME 🥳
March 8th, 2026 I turned 51. Happy birthday to me 🥳 That word… happy. Its meaning has changed so much for me. It takes real effort for me to say it these days, because very few things feel worthy of that word. Everything is tainted by the shadow of grief. I stop and think: Do […]
Finding our way
We each carry our grief – deal with our grief – in our own way. It’s important to know that there really is no right way for any of us to do this, so please don’t ever let someone tell you how you must do it or that you’re doing it wrong. You may choose […]
No Small Talk in Conversations
This past weekend, I flew to Los Angeles for a short 10 hours to attend my cousin’s funeral. She was 54 years old, and passed away after becoming ill in late December. At the funeral and reception, I had the chance to reconnect with tons of family members I rarely see. Many talked to me […]
The Daze of a Week
The first week of March brought a strong sense of nostalgia. When I was prompted to grab my phone and to access my archived memories on Facebook early Monday morning, I realized that on that day, 8 years ago, my sister passed after a long illness. Today was her Service I’m also reminded. I remember […]