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Time to Go Home

Posted on: March 12, 2026 | Posted by: Gary Ravitz

Our time here in Tucson is rapidly winding down.  In just over a week, Lola the pup and I will embark on our way home.

My thoughts start to turn to upcoming adjustments: a return to winter clothing, planning for uncertain, often turbulent weather in early Spring on the road, budgeting for soaring gasoline prices (impossibly approaching double the price I paid on the front end?), finding dog-friendly, overnight accommodation on the fly while passing through the dark vastness of America. I can almost feel the inevitable road fatigue that overcomes an old man and his dog on their long journey home from Tucson through southern Arizona and New Mexico, along endless, dreary miles of highway between west Texas and the Oklahoma panhandle.  By then, the Ozarks will seem like a dream, despite a ceaseless string of ugly billboards exhorting tourists to stop and see Missouri’s caves and caverns, or indulge in stores of candy, chocolates, and assorted nuts that seem to exist there in bottomless abundance.

Of course, we’ll do our best to avoid the lurking traffic cops while simultaneously driving as hard and as fast as humanly possible to put some of these places in our rear-view mirror. It’s a delicate dance.

Finally, we’ll have to drive the length of our own flat, featureless State to reach home. Based on past trips, I can expect we’ll be greeted by overcast skies, a remarkably high likelihood of precipitation, rapidly falling temperatures, and a brisk, cold wind.  Close to home, as the rural landscape starts to disappear, I know we’ll have to navigate thorny road construction projects and ever-increasing volumes of vehicular traffic that can double ordinary travel times and make one feel that he is driving through sludge. Here, along with falling temperatures, the rain turns to slush, even snow.

In the end, I will be as weary as Odysseus returning home to Ithaca. And with any luck, just like his Penelope, at the end of the journey, my Robyn will be waiting for me.

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It has been the busiest season here in Tucson. First, I’ve taken advantage of its consistently splendid weather to keep both Lola and me physically active (despite painful sciatica, which makes it hard for me to hike among the mountain and desert scenery). As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I was taking several interesting classes at an adult community education center affiliated with the University of Arizona, geared toward folks over fifty. Lately, however, I’ve been cutting classes (much as I did when I was an actual student) to entertain a constant stream of out-of-town guests. In fact, my dear friends from Ohio, Bob and Linda, are currently here visiting even as I prepare this post.

Tomorrow, I am leaving for a weekend in Phoenix, where Robyn is making an unannounced appearance to help celebrate the birth of her eldest son, who just happens to be visiting. I’m very much looking forward to her bonus visit.

Finally, as always, I’ll cram as many fun activities as possible into my final week in Tucson, even as I prepare to leave the place. Preparing to depart feels both bittersweet and exhilarating. This is how I know it’s time for me and Lola to go home.

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About Gary Ravitz

In relevant part, my musings are for me. It’s one of the ways in which I process losing my sweetest. Of course, Lee didn’t want to die. She had fought like hell, but the relentless cancers kept coming: Skin cancers; breast cancer; head and neck cancer; colon cancer; and finally, the deadly pancreatic cancer. In June 2020, and only after being pressed hard by Lee, her oncologist opined that my wife had from two weeks to two months left to live, turned on her heels and nearly sprinted from the hospital room, never again to be seen or heard from by us. I promptly removed Lee from the hospital and brought her home. It was the right thing to do and I only wish I had acted sooner over “the best” medical advice to the contrary. In fact, my sweet wife only had nine days left to live. At the final, she embraced her own death with great courage and unfailing kindness. It was a truly remarkable display of grace and wondrous to behold. It was my great privilege and honor to be with her every step of the way. And now, it’s my privilege to be able to write a few words to you each week. In a nutshell, I believe every journey is unique, but, hopefully, to know that you do not have to walk it alone can also be reassuring. And, along the way, you might hear a bit more information about me.
Gary

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