Happy Sunday everyone! Those of you who have followed me here on this blog or elsewhere in the widowed community probably know by now that July 13th will be twelve years since the sudden and life-altering death of Don Shepherd. You may also know that on the first year anniversary, at the suggestion of my […]
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Three Years’ Ago This Week
Lee died three years’ ago this week — on July 2 to be precise. This year the date fell on a Sunday. This year, when I awoke, Robyn was with me. I felt no ambivalence about this circumstance. On the contrary, I was happy she was with me. *** According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale, […]
New Circles
A few weeks ago, my younger boys tried out with a competitive club soccer organization. Even though it’s a club, every kid that wants to join makes a team. Both kids happened to land on teams that have the same coach. Then, because I’m a sucker, I got roped into being the team manager for […]
What’s Your Month?
Happy Sunday, good friends in the Land of Loss and/or Widowhood who are reading this. Here in Massachusetts, it is pouring down rain and there will be storms and thunder and lightning today. Again. It feels like its done nothing but rain since about mid-May, and since we opened our pool for the season; excited […]
A Girl and Her Horse
Yesterday, on June 30th, we would’ve celebrated my sister’s earthly 63rd birthday. Manette loved birthdays and always made sure they were enjoyed in style. I, born in the cold dark days of January, enjoyed, but also envied her sunny pool party celebrations. Mine always seemed to be shut down by ice storms and blizzards! She […]
Readying for Another Sweep
I have been getting the itch to start purging again. The first time I got rid of anything it was about 5 months after Tony died. I went through his clothes because it was something I knew. Heck, I probably purchased 75% of his wardrobe! I didn’t need to question what something was worth, where […]
Spending Time
Hello Sunday Readers! I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the concept of TIME. How it goes sooo fast when you are a kid (or maybe it doesn’t if you experienced a traumatic/unpleasant childhood), yet soooo slowly when you are older. How there are times when we all wish we could either speed up time, […]
Works-in-Progress
Last Friday I flew home from New York State after bringing my mother north from Georgia and attending the Military Service and interment for my father who passed in late April. Upon my return, it occurred to me that for the first time in my adult life, I resided in a place with not a […]
Selfish Thoughts
The New York Times recently published a fascinating and mainly hopeful guest essay by Kate Pickert dubbed “Is a Revolution in Cancer Treatment Within Reach?,” (See https://www.nytimes.com/2023/06/16/opinion/cancer-treatment-disparities.html (June 16, 2023)). In it, Ms. Pickert describes nothing less than a paradigm shift in cancer treatment away from a long-held medical assumption “that many early-stage cancer patients […]
“Firsts” Moving Forward
Tomorrow is Father’s Day and for the first time in my life I won’t be celebrating the occasion with my dad. On Tuesday of last week, my father’s cremains were interred at the Gerald B. H. Solomon Saratoga National Cemetery in Schuylerville, NY. It was a beautiful and solemn occasion with about dozen family members […]
Dos Urban Cantinos
Paul texted me Tuesday morning. He said that he wanted to see me and would come by my place. He suggested that we should have dinner together. I strongly suspected Paul’s message had not arrived entirely out of the blue. After all, this past Monday marked what would have been another wedding anniversary for me […]
Lost and Found
Do you ever feel lost, but you can’t define it? This is me, of late. Without words to inform my senses. Something in me wants to define my feeling of being lost. This makes me ask, what is it about the known that is less disconcerting than the unknown? Is that actually true? […]