I’ve spent the week hanging out with an old friend who I haven’t actually hung out with in person for over 30 years. I think that probably happens to a lot of us though with good friends we knew early on in life. Life happens, but you keep in touch over the years. We’d been […]
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Love and Comfort in the Desert
Robyn arrived in Tucson late last Thursday. I double-parked my car and sat listening to Albert King and his band playing the blues. Robyn’s flight was over one hour late. The airport felt deserted, but this did not prevent a cop on a bicycle from chasing me off a half-dozen or more times. I kept […]
Happy “Fire Horse” New Year!
I went to the movies this afternoon and greeted my friend with, “Happy New Year!” She replied, “And Happy Mardi Gras and Ramadan!” Three big celebrations fall on the same day this year. For some years, in my own life, I look forward to the Chinese New Year each spring after being instructed in […]
Life is a painting …
… and you are the artist Don’t know if it was my week at the ocean or the buckets of tears I’ve cried while watching movies and tv shows or attending back to back hockey games (and we won!) or maybe just leaving Sheila with my son for a few days. Whatever caused it, I […]
My First Valentine’s Day
I never asked, but I think the Facebook post I made on my first widowed Valentine’s Day was the catalyst that led me to writing this blog. Tony died in April of 2021, and I attended my first Camp Widow in October of 2021. After Camp, I became Facebook friends with the people I’d met. […]
RIP and Cheers James Van Der Beek
I watched this video James Van Der Beek had posted a couple years ago. He was in his car, and randomly sharing a “revelation” he just had. He had just parked his car in a spot that he had waited for and was a tight fit, but was a little bit closer (a shorter walk) […]
The “Ruff” Road Forward
I’m mindful that the major holiday for celebrating love occurs on my day to post for Widow’s Voice. It isn’t an easy one for the widowed population to say the least. The other day I imagined a Timeline of Personal Love Stories. A visualtion that might help those who still have their spouses and partners […]
The Fool
Mario was a very talented and highly creative artist. Out of all of the visual art he created in his lifetime, none was such an undertaking and reached as many people as his tarot deck. It started like many of his personal illustration projects, as a stand alone “character” that came straight from his imagination […]
Robyn Rides Again
Robyn arrives in Tucson late tonight. In advance of her arrival, I just had my place professionally cleaned, but it didn’t do much good with Lola the pup close at hand. I will have to clean up lightly again later today. I love Lola, but she is a hound of the first order. In the […]
A Valentine For You
V Very proud that you keep putting one foot in front of the other since your person left. A And how, when you fall down, you continue to get up and try again. L Love how bravery shows up for you at unexpected times . . . E Especially when you need it most. N […]
It’s in the Numbers
Three is most definitely “my” number … or 33 … or 333. Vern, Jeremy and I were a family of three. Vern, Jeremy and I were each 33 years old when our fathers died. After Vern died, I began waking at 3:33 each morning for months. I don’t know why I started waking at […]
Changes Coming
It’s only February but wheels are already in motion for another season of changes. My oldest will be a senior in high school next school year. I’ve heard that year is hard on many parents with all the changes it represents. Crossing each of those milestones without his dad feels heavy. I know it might […]