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The Written Word

Posted on: November 20, 2025 | Posted by: Gary Ravitz

I have been sitting here staring at a blank slate.  From time to time, producing a new piece for this blog each Thursday can be a source of anxiety.  Writing for you is a serious responsibility; one I take seriously.

Writing here scratches my itch, yet, at the same time, the Widow’s Voice blog imposes rules and standards to which we writers must adhere. Certain subjects, such as politics, are deemed taboo. I do not particularly like it; I might even personally disagree.  Sadly, however, assuming the widow community reflects the fraught and fractured state of society at large, I can understand the policy rationale for this prohibition.

Indeed, over the years, on a few occasions, I have had a blog piece delayed because somebody in authority perceived it might be too controversial for this audience.  Once, after some give-and-take, I was persuaded by their arguments to soften the tone of a particular piece about my deceased sister. On other occasions, however, I’ve stood my ground. It’s a part of a collaborative process taking place behind the scenes, so to speak.

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I enjoy writing, but it is also hard work. Hard work doesn’t bother me.  For me,  writing satisfies some deep needs I can’t articulate.

While I’ve authored short stories, I seriously doubt I have a novel, a serious poem, so much as a play inside me; otherwise, wouldn’t it have erupted from my imagination by now?  In fact, my computer’s hard drive is littered with creative writing fragments, story outlines, and character sketches, which is where they will likely remain in perpetuity. A few ancient pieces probably still exist in hard-copy form. If I were to rummage around the basement, I might stumble upon such an artifact gathering dust in a box, and think, “Why is it  still here?”

If measured by readership, my most successful writings are the academic ones, hardly surprising since I devoted a sizeable chunk of my legal career to researching and writing on various topics of interest to the legal community.

As for these Thursday musings, I have been a contributor to this site for nearly five years. Occasionally, I consider whether I have an expiration date.

Of course, having a weekly deadline also imposes discipline, a good thing. Come to think of it, perhaps the real cause for my occasional anxiety is not writing on a deadline but the notion that if I relinquish this creative outlet, I won’t easily be able to replace it.

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About Gary Ravitz

In relevant part, my musings are for me. It’s one of the ways in which I process losing my sweetest. Of course, Lee didn’t want to die. She had fought like hell, but the relentless cancers kept coming: Skin cancers; breast cancer; head and neck cancer; colon cancer; and finally, the deadly pancreatic cancer. In June 2020, and only after being pressed hard by Lee, her oncologist opined that my wife had from two weeks to two months left to live, turned on her heels and nearly sprinted from the hospital room, never again to be seen or heard from by us. I promptly removed Lee from the hospital and brought her home. It was the right thing to do and I only wish I had acted sooner over “the best” medical advice to the contrary. In fact, my sweet wife only had nine days left to live. At the final, she embraced her own death with great courage and unfailing kindness. It was a truly remarkable display of grace and wondrous to behold. It was my great privilege and honor to be with her every step of the way. And now, it’s my privilege to be able to write a few words to you each week. In a nutshell, I believe every journey is unique, but, hopefully, to know that you do not have to walk it alone can also be reassuring. And, along the way, you might hear a bit more information about me.
Gary

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