“Are we going to get a stepdad?” my then 7-year-old asked me. It had been less than one month since Tony died. Like all deep questions posed by children, this one was at bedtime. It was a question for which I was unprepared. I do remember stumbling through an answer. If my widow memory is […]
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Let the Sun Shine in. Or Don’t.
I’ve been in my apartment now for about 2 months. Selling our home and going through this divorce has been challenging, emotional, and difficult, to say the least. The emotions are very complex, and they tend to change a lot, depending on how life is going that day, how tired I am, and how I’m […]
Cones of Uncertainty
I thank Mary Moore Hughes for posting for me last Saturday. Living in Central Florida, we’d found ourself twice in a brief span of time in what is called The Cone of Uncertainty, and uncertainty it does bring. Being without internet made it impossible for me to post and I asked Mary to present a […]
Incomplete Grief
I recently came across the term, incomplete grief. The definitions of incomplete grief vary widely from not confronting or not willing to confront feelings of grief to feeling stuck in time and unable to grieve properly. I feel like a lot of us compartmentalize grief—put it up on a shelf so we can attend to […]
The Nearly Perfect Weekend
On Friday, the weather in New York City was picture-perfect. Warm sunshine reflected off the Hudson and the blue sky was completely cloudless. I chatted with a Louisiana woman, now living in New York City. She was with a bearded man wearing a Louisiana T-shirt and two adolescents. Suddenly, displaying a smile sweet as pie, […]
Reel Therapy Repeat is Still Good Medicine
What is Reel Therapy? Gary Solomon’s popular book of the same name suggests that movies can be a therapeutic tool for our lives. A friend of mine gave me this book a long time ago and I pulled it out recently with an instinct that it might be helpful. “In order for cinema therapy to […]
Bookmarked
The last few weekends have been so busy for us. Part of it has been trying to fit in all our fall traditions before we leave for the twins yearly birthday trip and the other part was trying to keep up with our daily lives. As the start of the ‘ber months began it just […]
Sick and Solo
It was bound to happen. For four years I have managed to avoid contracting Covid, but that changed last week. When Tony first passed in 2021, I worried about it a lot. How would I manage taking care of the boys while taking care of myself? Where would it be best to quarantine? Could someone […]
NY State of Mind
My wedding anniversary is coming up on October 27th. It would have been 18 years, but instead, it is forever just under 5 years. Don and I got married in Sea Cliff, New York, at a beautiful venue on the Long Island sound. To this day, that is one of the most incredible days of […]
Happy Birthday Little Q
Welcome Saturday readers! This is Mary Moore Hughes posting for Lisa who is in the recovery stages of Hurricane Milton. She has no power or internet but they are ok! Since Milton arrived the day her little Quint turned 3, I am sharing a re-post of her birthday post for Quint last year. Sending love […]
50 Things
I honestly have not been in a writing mood the past week. Usually, at some point during the week, an idea of a topic will pop into my head, but not this week. I’m still recovering from the pinched nerve issue and trying to ease back into some normal activities. I’ve discovered just how much […]
Seniors on the Move
Tomorrow Robyn and I are off to New York City for Robyn’s birthday weekend! It is not her actual birthdate. That occurred in August. Consider it a belated celebration, although, as I recall, we also celebrated heartily on her real birth date. We enjoy any excuse to celebrate together. And, why not? *** Originally, we […]