While here in Tucson, I’ve enrolled in several adult education courses, which started this week. *** On Tuesday, I attended my first session, where a member of the University of Arizona Department of Linguistics presented a talk on artificial intelligence. He had an interesting take on the economics of this new technology. Without getting into […]
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What is widowhood asking of me today?
At 1,748 days out has its question changed? When I walked my husband out to the coroner’s van in our driveway we were 51 years 9 months married. I was sending him off, in the custom of our culture, to a place unknown to me. Saying the first of many goodbyes, I had no […]
Time Wasted?
My time at the beach has been exactly what I needed, even though it has not been exactly what I had planned. Now I could easily beat myself up for all I have not done while here at the beach. All I thought I needed to do. All I had planned to do: Lots of […]
The Dance Crew
Last week, I spent 4 perfect days in Cabo with a handful of my widow friends. It takes a little more work to get to Mexico, so our entire crew wasn’t able to join for this one. But the 5 of us made the most of our time together. Contrary to what an outsider might […]
Taking Off Our Matching Rings
I remember the various milestones in the past 11 years, regarding when I took off certain significant pieces of jewelry. The matching ring that I wore on my ring finger that Lynn and I had that represented our forever union – I took that off in various spurts. I stopped wearing mine after a year […]
Nomadic Musings
Lately, for some reason, I’ve been especially nostalgic for my home state of New Jersey. Maybe it’s the news coverage and all the dire forecasts of the meterologists that have that state, and many others, under warnings for a storm of historic proportions currently spreading across the nation and set to paralyze normal life this […]
“I shouldn’t do it but I do it anyway.”
Everyone’s got an, I know I shouldn’t do it but I do it anyway. For me, it’s staying up late. From what I can remember this all started when I was pretty young. I would give my parents fits over wanting to stay up way past my bedtime. I would come up with creative ways […]
The Thrill Is Gone
Lola and I arrived in Tucson late Tuesday afternoon. It’s not exactly a hop, skip, and jump from our home to sunny Arizona, with stops along the way in Springfield, Elk City, and Albuquerque. Our trip covered three nights plus a full day’s drive. *** I was thinking about our first trip here. This prompted […]
Cold Morning, Warm Heart
Love is the engine in the many tasks that make up a life. As a lucky grandma, I am called to assist now and again. just one of many privileges that make up my life. Still alive am I, widowed and all. As I near the letting go of my Wednesday blog task of […]
What’s My Purpose?
I try to use the first month of a new year to take a good look at my life … do some deep diving, reviewing, thinking, planning. What’s working well? What do I need to change? What new things do I want to try? What do I need to leave behind? What mistakes have I […]
Friendship and Grief
Emily is out of town this week. This repost on friendship and grief is worth another read form her 2024 blog post! __________________ Over the last week, I’ve been reflecting on friendship. When you lose your partner, often you also lose your best friend. Losing your best friend changes the dynamics of how you share […]
The Unexpected Nostalgia of Weather Changes
I finally went for a run in the woods near my house. It has been about 2 months since I went on a “real” run, and even longer since I went for a “proper” trail run in these woods that I consider my church. It was cold and sunny, perfect for a run. It’s the […]