Last week, I spent 4 perfect days in Cabo with a handful of my widow friends. It takes a little more work to get to Mexico, so our entire crew wasn’t able to join for this one. But the 5 of us made the most of our time together.
Contrary to what an outsider might think, we didn’t sit around in a sad circle lamenting the loss of our husbands. Sure, we found time to talk about our lives and kids now and that includes the impact of our losses. But what we did more than anything on this trip was dance.
We danced everywhere; the pool, light-up dance floors, sitting at the table, on stage, in the club, instructor-led lessons, and on a catamaran snorkel sailing. Sometimes we didn’t even realize we were doing it. I’d be sitting in a chair, and I’d unknowingly be bee-bopping in my seat.
It might sound silly that the experience of dancing is what I’m taking home from this trip. But dancing without abandon isn’t something that you can do with just anyone. I know I can dance my heart out and be silly with these women, with zero fear that they’ll give me a sideways glance about it. Unedited dancing is reserved for the people you love and are comfortable with.
Our last night in Cabo, we left the resort for an amazing last dinner together. Everyone was flying out the next morning, and we were planning to start filtering up to bed quickly. But when we arrived at the main level to split off, we found a silent disco had been set up. They look silly, and I was skeptical until I tried one recently. But they are so much fun! We each grabbed a set of headphones and had our last dance party of the trip.
It was the perfect ending to our getaway and I’m so thankful to all my friends (widowed and not) who will dance with me.
