This has not been one of my better weeks. Sadly, my kitty with the illness died on Monday night. Tuesday I had to make a 3 hour drive to pick up Mario’s dad at the airport on 3 hours sleep. Wednesday I found out that the Jeep repair I was originally quoted $1900 jumped to […]
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Better Understanding My Emotions
I was sitting at Robyn’s kitchen table. We were talking with one of her granddaughters, Sarah, who was regaling us with the highlights of a just-completed trip with her long-time boyfriend, Paul. She mentioned in passing that while they were gone, Paul’s mother, having experienced a pain in her back during the prior month, had […]
Light Summer Reading 📚
The Wild Edge of Sorrow This book has been sitting on my nightstand for months. I love reading, yet that’s another thing that took a back seat to trauma and grief. I finally started reading the book today. As I lay on the sand and opened the book, I laughed to myself. “Wow, girl… you’re […]
Happy Birthday, Jim
Jim’s 80th birthday was Thursday. We had talked about doing something extra special in 2026 when I hit 75 and he hit 80 … a trip to Hawaii, perhaps … or maybe even Italy! It was fun thinking about what we might decide to do … until he got so sick and we just took […]
Tag, You’re It
I’ve been navigating orthodontic issues with my oldest son. We tried a non-invasive solution for almost a year before they decided we should consult an oral surgeon. Consulted for braces (again) and surgery, then mid-stream a second opinion put us on a surgery only plan. Based on the information we have, I believe we have […]
“Thanks for the Adventure – Now Go Have a New One!”
I recently watched a clip from the animated movie, “UP” (tearjerker, if you haven’t seen it). It was the scene where Carl, who was recently widowed, is looking thru a photo album his wife, Ellie, had made. In it, she had photos from their life together. They were “regular life” photos, getting married, buying their […]
The Tree of Life Grows On
At 5:30am Thursday, I received a text from my brother John (I was already up). He, his wife and son were in the Hartsfield Airport in Atlanta, GA, waiting to board a plane for California. They were travelling to attend the Services for Oliver Tree, who is the son or our cousin Christine and her […]
Ramblings
It’s another one of those weeks where I really have a lot of my mind, but trouble writing about it. One of the things is the passage of time. I’m not sure I really valued time as much as I do now before loved ones in my life started dying, which is a bit of […]
Good Morning
“I’ve got nothing to say, but it’s okay.” (From “Good Morning,” by the Beatles.) *** I have been contributing to the Widow’s Voice blog on a weekly basis since February 2021. By my rough calculation, this means, God willing, that by the end of 2026, I will have churned out around 300 written pieces for […]
Permission to Be/Come 😊
I feel like I barely finished our summer travel plans, and the summer is almost over. Two and a half years after my loss, I’m still having to remind myself of how much energy everything takes. It has gotten better, but man… this process feels so slow sometimes!!! Subconsciously, I think the more I’m able […]
Staring at the blank page before you ….
Spent a lot of time this week reminiscing … reading the old blog I started right after Vern died, looking through photos of special times I had with Jim and with Vern, and beginning to write in a new personal blog for this time in my life after losing Jim. I am so very […]
Mysteries of the Future: A Repost
This week I’m not feeling inspired by anything from the last week to write about. My heart and mind are with an old friend of mine that has a very sick kid. After sitting in front of the computer for over an hour with a blank page, I went back to my posts from last […]