There is at least one thing I like about every season of the year … snow in the mountains during the winter, the flowers in spring, the warm summer days … but with the fall, I like it ALL … the colors, the crispness in the air, Halloween, early sunsets, getting to wear all of […]
Contacting Spirits
Now that it’s October and we’re officially into “spooky season”, what better time than to talk about contacting spirits! Often a widowed person (or really anyone who’s lost a loved one) may ask if there is a way to contact the spirit of their loved one. To me, it’s not an unusual question. It’s a […]
Advice for the newly widowed …
I started writing here at Widow’s Voice as part of my own journey in this unfortunate “club”. But I also write so that other widowed people may stumble on these ramblings and potentially find some sort of solace or help or at least know that they’re not alone in what they’re going through (even though […]
That is the roller coaster that is life.
Whoever first coined the phrase, “life is like a roller coaster”, really was spot on. It’s all there – anticipation, regret, excitement, anxiety, smooth sailing, times when you feel like you’ll fly off track, and of course, all the peaks and valleys. What goes up, must come down and what goes down goes up again. […]
Haunted Houses
Last Friday, a friend and I went down to a local restaurant that’s located inside a historic Victorian house originally built in 1891. It also happens to be 2 doors down from the 1895 Queen Anne style cottage Mario and I purchased and renovated (and that my friend still rents from me). We’d been there […]
“It’s aloneness rather than loneliness”
I spent way too much time mindlessly scrolling instagram last week. I spend more time there than any other social media platform simply because I follow a lot of just plain old fun accounts as well as art and music and people out in the world doing nice things. There is one account I follow […]
Mementos
I write about memories a lot. I think memories are important, especially when you lose the person you made the memory with. A lot of us also associate inanimate objects with memories. This is one reason why it can be so hard to get rid of inanimate objects once a loved one is no longer […]
The Art of Living in the Moment
On a daily basis, most of us have a lot to do. There’s work, there’s taking care of other humans (kids, parents, etc.), there’s all the daily personal to-do’s. And there is only a limited amount of time to do it all. For the last three months, I’ve been “grinding”, as they say. No, I […]
Reminders
This past week I got 2 pieces of junk mail addressed to Mario. It doesn’t happen as often as it did, but considering he’s been gone for 4 and half years now, you’d think I would get no mail in his name. As any widowed person knows, stuff like this is a reminder of all […]
The Depths
I read a fair amount of material on the supernatural, the paranormal, the occult, things lumped into the realm of “spiritual” as well as cultural interpretations on death and what might come after. This isn’t something that just started after I lost my person, this was something that started with my dad introducing me to […]
Tethered to Technology
The other day I left the house to run errands. I got about 5 miles down the road when I realized my cell phone was not in my pocket. For a moment, I seriously contemplated turning around and going back home to get it before I stopped and thought, what am I doing? I remember […]
“Love Letter From the Afterlife” – Andrea Gibson
This one’s going to be short this week, but it will pack a punch. Shout out to one of my clients, as it was through them that I first learned about Andrea Gibson and saw this YouTube video. Andrea was a poet and performance artist who explored gender identity, death and more through their verse. […]