If you’ve been reading my posts every Friday, you’ll know that the last couple weeks have had a lot of kitty health issues. Thursday evening Freya and I made the trip one hour north to Eugene, Oregon for a life-saving blood transfusion at an ER vet (side note: I never really thought about cats donating […]
When you don’t have kids …
I’m not sure of the exact percentage, but I know there’s quite a few of us who were married and did not have any kids. For Mario and I, it was a conscious choice. Honestly, for me, it was a choice that happened very early in my life. I just could never see myself as […]
Life’s Ups and Downs
May 3rd marked what would have been Mario’s 53rd birthday. So it was one of those anniversaries. In life, Mario never made a big deal out of his birthdays. Like I’ve mentioned before, I think it was because he knew he’d get a more limited amount of them than some people get. But rather than […]
Hanging with Other Widowed People
I mentioned the first failed attempt at going to a local widow’s group I was invited to join but this Monday rolled around and my friend who invited me texted me to remind me the group was meeting for lunch that day. The struggle is real when you’re an introvert and you’re asked to “show […]
Memorials & Keepsakes
In the U.S., cremation seems to be the preferred method of disposing of remains with 63.4% compared to a burial rate of 31.6%. Pretty sure this has greatly changed over the decades as even when I was a kid I don’t think anyone I knew of who passed away was cremated. The funeral was always […]
A normal week …
Normal is a really relative term these days. For me, normal is nothing overly exciting or unusual or entertaining happened. So this is basically just going to be me rambling about every day life and dealing with insomnia. Monday A local artist friend I know had told me about a local widow’s group that meets […]
Static
I was trying to do some clean up on my iPhone … you know, things like deleting apps I no longer use, deleting text messages, deleting old voice mails. I was going along just fine until I hit the voicemails and realized there were like 600 of them saved. Then I realized that iPhone actually […]
“But I’m here to tell you there’s something else… The afterworld”
My fellow gen-xers will probably recognize that quote. For those who don’t, it’s from the Price song, “Let’s Go Crazy”. Prince will always make me think of Mario because he was such a huge fan. I also thought it was an appropriate quote for the past weekend for me. I took a 4 day weekend […]
How Different Grief Is
So last Saturday I was running an errand for my mom when I saw a flyer for a small Psychic Fair at a book store not far away from where I was. I detoured to check it out. There were various psychics in attendance, most of them reading tarot cards. While I am a believer […]
Don’t Wait
Spring is kicking into high gear here in Southern Oregon at what seems like an earlier rate than usual. The other day it got into the low 80s. Sun is shining, bulbs are coming up everywhere, I managed to get all my Easter decor out for once (it’s been years since I did that), and […]
Everybody leaves one day….
As levees are breaking, a flood comes Washes away all the rubble Past indiscretions and stalemates We are all sailing to the gates Everybody leaves one day I know it hurts Everybody goes away You will too, I will too (Ghost) The thing is, everything that lives will leave one day. Death is all around […]
Birthday Week
A long time ago I decided I would never be upset if I couldn’t do something super special ON my actual birthday. Oddly enough, Mario and I were kind of on the same page with that, but he was even worse in that he didn’t like to celebrate his birthday at all. In hindsight, as […]