Last Sunday I woke up in California ready to head home after spending an incredible weekend with a group of widow friends. Being a travel day, the first thing I did was check my flights. Both flights were delayed by 15 minutes. I tried to go back to sleep but something told me to keep […]
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Just Your Basic Sadness
Hey Friends. Today, on this Sunday, I feel sad. Nothing more profound, really. Just sad. And it’s the kind of sadness for all the things that you wish were, that cannot be. For things that cannot work out, but you think to yourself: “if only…..” Sadness for humans and love and emotions being so complicated, […]
Memorial Day Weekend: A Time For Reflection
The Memorial Day Weekend sort of crept up on me this year. Back in my former locale at the Jersey Shore, this weekend ushers in the official start of a short, yet very active, summer season of beaching, barbecue gatherings, boating, fishing and so many other outdoor activities. My late husband Rich, who served militarily […]
Being an Introvert
I missed yet another virtual Widow’s Voice meetup tonight (I’ve been to ONE), not because I don’t want to hang out with those folks, but because I’ve done too much “people-ing” today. Introverts are seriously misunderstood. So many people think that we are just socially awkward or shy and that is what original caused the […]
Born Young at Heart
I had finished a game of pickleball and was standing around with a few others, who, like me, were gathered by the fence waiting for the next court to become available, when I overheard “Charlie” talking to a fellow about his in-laws. “Charlie” said his in-laws lived in a suburban housing complex that recently had […]
A Personal Eclipse
On April 4th, I ordered my eclipse glasses in preparation for the 2024 Solar Eclipse. Although I knew that the best places to observe were Texas, Mexico, and Canada, I would be settling for my patio in Riverside, CA. I donned my funky glasses and looked toward the sun which showed up as a fat, […]
The Spirit of Weddings
This past weekend the twins and I had the privilege of being part of my cousin’s wedding. She’s one of my best friends and my soul sister. I found that weddings have been particularly hard since Erik’s passing. It’s always a harsh reminder that the person we have lost is not there with us. But […]
My Bad
Welp, it finally happened. After writing a Monday post for this blog 112 times, I forgot. I’m not even that mad at myself for it. In fact, I am patting myself in the back for remembering to write or have my week covered consistently for that long. Widow brain or not, I have made this […]
Moving Forward and Waiting
Hello Friends. Happy Sunday. Last week I shared (finally) that my new beginning, Nick, and I are currently going through a divorce. It was tough to share that here, because I know that my story and OUR love story post-loss has brought a lot of hope to a lot of widowed people. I sincerely hope […]
“Ruff” Challenges and Big Dreams: A “Tail” of Two Dogs
Last Monday night, the world gained its 148th “Top Dog” when a sleek ebony hued miniature poodle named Sage took the title of Best-in-Show at the Westminster Dog Show in New York. I loved how handler Kaz Hosaka carried Sage down the hall before placing her on the ground at the entrance of the ring […]
Making the Best of It
I’m not sure when my mindset changed about making the best of a situation I perceive as undesirable (or actually bad), but I’m pretty sure it was post Mario, but I’m not sure exactly why. Maybe it’s one of those, “don’t sweat the small stuff” type of things kicking in since I’ve already been through […]
North Country
As a financial contributor to and supporter of its mission, I’ve just received a copy of the latest issue of the Nature Conservancy magazine. It featured an article on the Conservancy’s efforts to reclaim and protect huge swaths of land in Michigan’s rugged Upper Peninsula, a region known in these parts simply as the U.P. […]