Okay. So let’s just do it. Let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about love and dating and sex. Yeah, I said it. Sex. And widowhood. Lets not forget widowhood. I need to talk about this. It’s time. The first thing that I will say about this, is that each of us is completely different, when it comes to our feelings about love, dating,…
The Duality of Widowhood
The definition of the word “duality” is as follows: 1. the quality or condition of being dual 2. an instance of opposition or contrast between two concepts or two aspects of something; a dualism. “the photographs capitalize on the dualities of lightness and dark, stillness and movement.” I think it is more than safe to say that every widowed…
You Would Be Proud of Me If You Weren’t Dead
So, one week ago today, on March 31st, in NYC, in a big giant concert hall and an even bigger audience watching the online live-stream, I was one of 11 speakers, chosen to give a TED talk, at the TEDx event, held at Adelphi University. My talk was titled: “When Someone You Love Dies, There Is No Such Thing As Moving On”, and it was all about how we…
Kelley Lynn at TedX
Dearest Friends: Today I will stand before an audience of thousands and deilver my TEDx talk titled: “When Someone You Love Dies, There Is No Such Thing As Moving On.” The talk is a message for everyone. Not just widowed people – everyone. It is about love and loss, and the way that we, as a society, mishandle the language and behaviors we…
Seaworthy
sea·wor·thy ˈsēˌwərT͟Hē/ adjective (of a vessel) in a good enough condition to sail on the sea. Sometimes, something unexpected happens, and it gives you a new look at something, or a new look at yourself maybe. Sometimes, everything just lines up in the way it is supposed to, so that the universe can deliver to you, exactly what it is that…
I’m Not Okay
So next week, Im flying to Tampa, Florida, and attending Camp Widow for the 11th or 12th time, I think. I honestly have lost track of how many times I have attended as a presenter and given my comedic talk / performance on grief and loss. Maybe that’s a good thing, maybe it’s a bad thing, maybe its just a thing. Who cares. At the end of…
Particles
“Astronomers have found at least seven Earth-sized planets orbiting the same star 40 light-years away, according to a study published Wednesday in the journal Nature. The findings were also announced at a news conference at NASA Headquarters in Washington. This discovery outside of our solar system is rare because the planets have the winning…
Patterns
It was an interesting 10 days. It was a week and a half of guessing games, assumptions, And jumping to conclusions. (on my part) It was a very emotional 10 days, and it was 10 days I do not wish to repeat again. But it came with a lot of lessons, and things that I probably needed to improve on. This one’s all on me. In this weird version of…
Simple
I wish it were simple. It should be simple. Why can’t it just be simple? The grieving part, the part where you are in emotional and sometimes physical pain 24/7 – that part is already hard enough. It’s downright impossible most days. So when you finally leave that part, and you come into this shift of something different, something else -…
Desperate, Ugly, Pathetic
I am feeling down about myself. Every now and then I get this way. I absolutely HATE it when I get this way. There is nothing attractive or appealing about being or feeling this way. It is desperate. It’s pathetic. I fall into this place where I am searching and looking to feel pretty again, sexy again, wanted again. At this point, I would settle…
Bringing You Closer
A couple of weeks ago, I gave away some of Don’s music things – a VOX amp, (like the one The Beatles used, which I know because my husband told me that ALL THE TIME) an equalizer, sound mixer, and more – to a close family friend who is both a sound engineer/ editor, and musician / drummer. I have always given away things that belonged to Don -…
Overload
So, my life used to be nothing but grief. The first few days, months, and even years after losing my husband to sudden death, were filled with grief, almost 24/7. I was always in pain, always crying or trying really hard not to cry, always overcome with emotions and overwhelming intense darkness. Every part of my days and my nights were taken over…