Still, I am taken back when someone in David’s life has just learned of his death. How could they not have known??! Shouldn’t anyone who had ever come in contact with him during his life have felt the earth pause the moment he passed away? As if the earth should have been altered if he no longer walked upon it. Dramatic, I know. It’s the best way I can describe the disgust I feel when I’m told that someone is yet to hear of his passing. My world will never look the same again. Why should theirs?

I have lived through more than I’ve ever considered possible. Surprising no one more than myself. Life moves on… but it should be different. Changed. Shouldn’t it? I have come to grips with that fact that I will never again be satisfied with the pace of life. It will now always be either too fast or too slow… One day closer to David, yet another day farther from when I had him.

The earth does not skip a beat when extraordinary men, like David, exit from its pull. It does not alter. It does not cease… It pushes forward. But forever I am changed. Today, I recommit to embracing that change! I can bathe in gratefulness for the moments I did have. Smiling, because as I type I can almost remember the true sound of his voice… Music to my ears!!

It’s hard for some people (non-widows) to believe that I truly consider myself to be lucky. Blessed. Yes, I am living through my nightmare. Yes, I wake up every day to a new realization that David isn’t coming back and the world keeps going. But, this morning, the clouds have parted and I can see that a life with David is more than I could have thought to ask for. No, it’s not the typical lifetime we thought we’d experience together but it’s a lifetime nonetheless.