I keep returning here to write something. To let you all know that things are okay and that life goes on and we are happy. They are, it does and often we are.

But I am feeling the weight lately of a realization. One I should have had two years and eight months ago.

This is FOREVER.

Not solely being without Jeff.

But taking the garbage out by myself. Half-heartedly laughing at a movie alone. Waking up with two frightened children and their nightmares. Making turkey dinner for three.

All of it. Alone. All of it on me. All of it, my responsibility.

The monotony of continuing on is exhausting. The strength needed to smile and be optimistic waning.

I am at a point where I feel like my ‘get out of jail free/talk about Jeff as much as I want’ card is expiring and I should allow a conversation to pass without dropping his name. But I am not ready. He is still my lover/friend/husband.

I want to write about it all. I want to talk about it. I know that so many will tell me that it is MY timetable and to do what I need to do….But I also wonder about other’s patience and my sanity for remaining in the world of ‘what was’.

I am so painfully lonely….and writing about it seems so terribly lame and pathetic. I have never felt this lonely. Socially, I am quite satisfied. I have great friends. A ridiculously busy life. No ‘free’ time.

But ‘intimately’, I am starving. I want to whisper in the dark to someone who will whisper back. I need to know that there is someone, who happens to have a physical body, that has genuine interest in the intricacies of my mind and my little family. To feel that when I am drowning under an ocean of mundane yet necessary tasks, that someone will help….just because. I want to be touched. I want to not be alone. I want to have the luxury of allowing fear and vulnerability in.

I want to be loved again.

….And I feel so pathetic for writing about this loneliness yet again.