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Ocean Beckons

Posted on: July 30, 2025 | Posted by: Kathie Neff

With Deep Medicine

During Dan’s illness and throughout his last days on earth, the ocean brought me comfort. Words fail to capture how much it helped me, but it was something about the immensity of the sea.

Boundless immensity.

Unfathomable depths.

Powerful enough to kill and mysteriously gentle. Home to millions of sea creatures within who arrive for their purpose and pass on in anonymity.

 

A love affair close or from afar

as when I raise a hand

wave to it

driving by the coast on Neptune Place.

 

How do we dare

mount its power

in tiny water crafts?

 

And trust ourselves

to its force?

 

How magnificent

it is

we are

when we commune.

Herd of common dolphins

Watching common dolphins

in Dana Point

giant whales’ surprise

a wealth of life

within its unfathomable depths.

 

Ocean matching the

power and depth

of loss, love, and human existence.

 

 

The ocean is medicine

for me whether

tiny toe in

or

walking next to its active rhythm.

 

Powerful sounds

create a secret language

that moves my soul.

 

Swimming at La Jolla shores

feeling a weightlessness

that defies time.

 

My family watching me bob

in the shallow space

between the far deep

and the shore

as minutes move towards hours

in the sea.

 

Driving anywhere

along the California coast line;

Or aboard a catamaran

watching for orcas in Edmonds, Washington.

 

For me,

It is a solitary experience.

Pure meditation = ocean + human mindfully joined in heart and spirit.

Ocean + me.

 

It’s calling me.

Before summer’s end, I shall respond.

Here I am.

Ariel view of ocean depths.

If you find solace for your grief in ocean images,

within this blog is a post by “old man” that has been inspiring grieving people for the past 14 years.

I hope it speaks to you.

https://www.jillgriefcounselor.com/blog/grief-comes-in-waves-like-an-ocean-of-emotion

 

Sea gulls over ocean.

 

Categories: Widowed, Newly Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Milestones, Widowed Emotions

About Kathie Neff

Kathie Neff was widowed on April 15, 2021. She and her beloved husband, Dan, were high school sweethearts and enjoyed dancing and riding horses together. They lived in gratitude, hope and forgiveness for 50 years and nine months when Dan passed quietly late at night, surrounded by their seven children who, with Kathie, were caring for him in their family home.

Dan and Kathie have been a part of Camp Widow and Soaring Spirits International since its inception, as members of Michele Neff Hernandez’s cadre of helpers from the Neff family.

Kathie believes strongly in the strength and bond that is the gift of community and brings a heart of love for all who have been affected by death and dying.

Long live love. XO

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