Hello Dead Husband,  There are days, days like today, that are not special days, just regular, boring, rainy days, where my heart wants so badly, SO BADLY, to be able to  talk to you.  To tell you things.  To lie in bed with you again, and swing our arms back and forth, as we hold hands, and act silly, and sing our silly songs, to the kitties,…

I figured something out this morning, about grief.  It is this …  Things that happen to you, after the loss of your person, that are painful,  hurt way more.  They hurt more than they did in the previous life. The “before” life.    In this “after” life, the one where my person is dead forever, things that hurt,  hurt more.    They hurt…

Okay.  So let’s just do it.  Let’s talk about it.  Let’s talk about love and dating and sex.  Yeah, I said it.  Sex.  And widowhood.  Lets not forget widowhood.  I need to talk about this.  It’s time. The first thing that I will say about this, is that each of us is completely different, when it comes to our feelings about love, dating,…

The definition of the word “duality” is as follows: 1. the quality or condition of being dual 2. an instance of opposition or contrast between two concepts or two aspects of something; a dualism. “the photographs capitalize on the dualities of lightness and dark, stillness and movement.”    I think it is more than safe to say that every widowed…

So, one week ago today, on March 31st, in NYC, in a big giant concert hall and an even bigger audience watching the online live-stream, I was one of 11 speakers, chosen to give a TED talk, at the TEDx event, held at Adelphi University. My talk was titled: “When Someone You Love Dies, There Is No Such Thing As Moving On”, and it was all about how we…

Dearest Friends:    Today I will stand before an audience of thousands and deilver my TEDx talk titled: “When Someone You Love Dies, There Is No Such Thing As Moving On.”  The talk is a message for everyone. Not just widowed people – everyone. It is about love and loss, and the way that we, as a society, mishandle the language and behaviors we…

sea·wor·thy ˈsēˌwərT͟Hē/ adjective (of a vessel) in a good enough condition to sail on the sea. Sometimes, something unexpected happens, and it gives you a new look at something, or a new look at yourself maybe. Sometimes, everything just lines up in the way it is supposed to, so that the universe can deliver to you, exactly what it is that…

So next week, Im flying to Tampa, Florida, and attending Camp Widow for the 11th or 12th time, I think. I honestly have lost track of how many times I have attended as a presenter and given my comedic talk / performance on grief and loss. Maybe that’s a good thing, maybe it’s a bad thing, maybe its just a thing.    Who cares.    At the end of…

“Astronomers have found at least seven Earth-sized planets orbiting the same star 40 light-years away, according to a study published Wednesday in the journal Nature. The findings were also announced at a news conference at NASA Headquarters in Washington. This discovery outside of our solar system is rare because the planets have the winning…

It was an interesting 10 days. It was a week and a half of guessing games, assumptions, And jumping to conclusions. (on my part) It was a very emotional 10 days, and it was 10 days I do not wish to repeat again. But it came with a lot of lessons, and things that I probably needed to improve on. This one’s all on me.   In this weird version of…

I wish it were simple.  It should be simple.  Why can’t it just be simple?  The grieving part, the part where you are in emotional and sometimes physical pain 24/7 – that part is already hard enough. It’s downright impossible most days. So when you finally leave that part, and you come into this shift of something different, something else -…

I am feeling down about myself. Every now and then I get this way. I absolutely HATE it when I get this way. There is nothing attractive or appealing about being or feeling this way. It is desperate. It’s pathetic. I fall into this place where I am searching and looking to feel pretty again, sexy again, wanted again. At this point, I would settle…