In just a couple weeks, I’m coming up on 3 years. That realization along with the hormones of pregnancy has really been a lethal – and emotional – combination. I found this old post from my blog that jumped out at me as something I’ve been thinking about lately and thought I would share. Maybe someone, somewhere out there might connect with this too.

I play this torturous game with myself pretty regularly, where I wonder what I would do if you came back today. I don’t mean to play, my mind plays and my heart can’t help but join. Every time I think about it, I feel my heart jolt, almost fooling myself into believing it could be possible. But the let down after still hurts every time.

Every time I think about what I would do. What would I say? I imagine myself dropping to my knees, sobbing, in sheer and utter gratitude more powerful than any emotion I’ve ever felt. I’d hang on to your neck, kiss you, and scan my fingers over your face, soaking in every inch of you, asking you where you’ve been. I’d tell you how you wouldn’t believe the hell we’d been through but it suddenly seemed like nothing with you standing in front of me. Then I’d take you to Carter, so you could finally meet the handsome boy we created.


I often think that if everyone were able to feel this kind of devastation in their hearts without having to suffer the actual loss in reality, it could change the world. It would change marriages, families, relationships. It’s ironic the knowledge that comes with loss when you can’t use it to appreciate what you no longer have. 


“‘What’ and ‘if’ are two words as nonthreatening as words come. But put them together side-by-side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life: ‘What if?’…” -Letters to Juliet

It does haunt me. Every single day.
I miss you baby.
I love you always.