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Sick and Tired

Posted on: February 23, 2026 | Posted by: Emily Vielhauer

The last two days I’ve been sick and tired, literally. We had a busy Friday and Saturday night, and I thought I was just sore from the weekend. Then I noticed it felt like my skin hurt. That first sign your getting sick before the real symptoms set in, leaving you question if it’s real or not.

As the day progressed on Sunday it got worse. For the last 2 days, I’ve been exhausted and battling to keep my temperature down. I’m hot and cold depending on when the pain reliever hits. I managed to work today but it was a struggle.

The kids are on their own scrounging for dinner. Don’t get me wrong, we do have food and no one is starving over here. But they have to step it up and for the most part they do. I hate that I don’t have Tony here to help and step in. It’s another reality of being the only parent in the house.

This morning, I woke the kids up by dropping in on their Alexa devices instead of getting up. I was glued to my bed, but they still got up and out the door.

So not surprising, I don’t have any transformative wisdom here for you today. Just know, that when you are sick and tired, you are not alone.

Photo by Greg Pappas on Unsplash

Categories: Widowed, Widowed Parenting, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Suddenly, Widowed by Suicide

About Emily Vielhauer

My name is Emily Vielhauer, I am 45 years old and have 3 knuckleheaded sons who are between the ages of 11 and 15. My husband, Tony, and I were married for 14 years and despite how things ended we built something great together.

April 19th, 2021 was the last day of my ‘before’ story. The day before I became a widow, before I was a solo parent to 3 boys, before I knew my love was suffering in silence, before suicide rocked my world, before I had to break the hearts of my children and all our friends and family, before I planned a funeral and delivered a eulogy, before I knew the true depths of my love for Tony and the way that love would be expressed through grief, so many befores.

My hope for this blog is to take you along with me as I navigate my life in the ‘after’ and that my words help someone else out there, whether they empower you or just let you know that you’re not alone out there.

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