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The Volcano

Posted on: September 5, 2022 | Posted by: Emily Vielhauer

I had something else written but this came to me right before I hit publish at 10pm. It’s a quick first draft but it feels more real than the mundane checklist of last week’s griever agenda. Thanks for reading and always being kind.

The Volcano

During the first 365, the sky was clouded with ash,

The constant eruptions of grief exploded out of the surface,

Covering everything I touched.

Everyone around was aware I was hot to the touch,

Checking in, offering to help cool the heat with their kindness.

Photo by Jonatan Pie on Unsplash

Since passing the 365, the ash has started to lift,

I can imagine the horizon,

Though I know not what it looks like.

The eruptions of grief aren’t as regular,

Though there is not always warning on when they will come.

Still sorrow can be felt, bubbling just below the surface,

One fissure in life can expand without warning,

Opening a crater of grief too hot to handle alone.

This is when you call the rescue team,

The ones that meant it when they said to call anytime.

All it can take is a hug to help seal the wound,

No words are needed, just quiet compassion and understanding to quell the lava of grief.

Categories: Newly Widowed, Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions

About Emily Vielhauer

My name is Emily Vielhauer, I am 45 years old and have 3 knuckleheaded sons who are between the ages of 11 and 15. My husband, Tony, and I were married for 14 years and despite how things ended we built something great together.

April 19th, 2021 was the last day of my ‘before’ story. The day before I became a widow, before I was a solo parent to 3 boys, before I knew my love was suffering in silence, before suicide rocked my world, before I had to break the hearts of my children and all our friends and family, before I planned a funeral and delivered a eulogy, before I knew the true depths of my love for Tony and the way that love would be expressed through grief, so many befores.

My hope for this blog is to take you along with me as I navigate my life in the ‘after’ and that my words help someone else out there, whether they empower you or just let you know that you’re not alone out there.

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