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See How They Shine~

Posted on: September 16, 2020 | Posted by: Alison Miller

Sailors of old had the right idea.

They looked to the stars to place themselves as they rode the ocean waves.

I’m here, they could say, after sighting particular stars and constellations.

Rising stars and setting stars dipped above and below the horizon at set points of their days and nights.

They watched the night skies and they measured the sun.

Both kept them grounded on the open sea.

Knowing how to locate true north, and, thus, south, greatly increased their chance of survival.

Those two points made it possible for them to navigate the broad and unknown, and often terrifying, expanse of water, into a safe port.

I’ve spent hundreds of nights and days on the open road in these 7 years since Chuck died,

Staring into the broad sweep of sky overhead, lit with the same stars and constellations used as set points since man first set sail in a boat.

I seek out Orion’s Belt, no matter where I am,

And it gives me a sense of placement in a life where I feel displaced.

I stare at the moon,

And remember gazing at that same moon with Chuck, hundreds of times over the years.

He’d grab my hand and say Come with me and look at the moon tonight!

Did you know that Orion’s Belt is also called the Three Kings or Three Sisters?

I just learned that tidbit, so I share it with you here.

I revere the stars scattered across my world.

My footing is unsure, mostly, as I go about living this life without Chuck.

And the twinkling expanse spreading out in such beauty so far above me

Allows me a handhold,

Something to grasp, if only with my heart.

Those 3 stars, always present for me, no matter where I might be,

Those kings and sisters,

Shimmer and shine and center me.

I’m everywhere and nowhere, but they are always there, teasing my gaze towards them,

As they teased sailors long gone from this world, since the beauty of stars was first discovered.

See how the stars shine for you.

Cradle them lightly in the curve of your hand,

Balance on tiptoe, reaching towards their faraway twinkle,

These infinite pathfinders, helping us navigate the uncharted depths of life without~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Categories: Widowed, Military Widowed, Widowed by Illness

About Alison Miller

My beloved husband Chuck died while we were full timing on the road. We’d rented a condo for our stay in southern CA, and I had to leave 3 weeks after his death. All I knew at that time was that I had to find a way to continue traveling on my own, because settling down without him made me break into a cold sweat. I knew that the only place I’d find any connection to Chuck again was out on the roads we’d been traveling for our last 4 years together. I knew nobody out on the road, I knew grief was a great isolator, and I knew I had to change the way I traveled without him, to make it more emotionally bearable for me. So I bought a new car, had a shade of pink customized for it, bought a tiny trailer and painted the trim in pink, learned how to tow and camp, and set out alone. My anxiety was through the roof, and all I knew to trust was the Love that Chuck left behind for me. I found Soaring Spirits early on, thank god, and the connections I made through SS helped ground me to some extent. I needed to know that other widow/ers were out there in my world, because I felt so disoriented and dislocated. Through Soaring Spirits, as the miles added up, my rig taking me north, south, east and west, I found community. I found sanity…or at least I learned that if I was bat shit crazy, I was in good company, and realizing that ultimately saved my sanity. PinkMagic, my rig, is covered with hundreds of names of loved ones sent to me by my widowed community, and I know it isn’t visible to the naked eye, but I’ll let you in on a secret…she actually illuminates Love as I drive down the many roads in our country, and I can see it through my side view mirror. Love does, indeed, live on~

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