Things happen in life. For me, my biggest trauma and grief, of course, was the death of Don Shepherd on July 13th, 2011. It was sudden. Instant. Jolted awake by my new reality, literally. A phone call and a cab ride to our local ER that would alter life as I knew it forever. “We […]

It’s Christmas Eve morning, and after feeding and loving on the kitty, I made myself some coffee and am now sitting down to read more of my book: “The 36 Hour Day”, to keep prepping for how to best love and help my dad, as his disease continues to slowly progress. There is no Christmas […]

Hello Sunday Readers. Great to see you here. As I have mentioned in some past blog posts here, there are currently some big things going on in my life and in my family’s life that I really can’t share here, or it wouldn’t be a good idea anyway. But one thing I have noticed is […]

Going through a lot of “stuff” right now. For awhile now, actually, but “life kicking me in the ass” really picked it up a notch about a week or so ago, and it hasn’t let up since. To put it bluntly, things kind of suck right now. I realize that I say this a lot […]

Grief changes when life changes; and when life changes, grief changes. But maybe the biggest thing that constantly changes and evolves is US. If we want to. If we choose to. If we allow the grief to be that annoying friend that you just can’t seem to shake, instead of treating her as the enemy. As we […]

Today we threw out my Keurig coffee maker. It stopped working and functioning correctly, so I drove it to the town dump this morning, along with this weeks other trash items; never to be seen again. My parents bought me that Keurig somewhere around 2013 or 2014. I cannot recall the exact year, because it […]

There was a time when I didn’t just GO to each Camp Widow event that happened every year, I NEEDED to go to every single Camp Widow event that happened each year. Like, it was a necessity for my mental health , for my sanity, for my well-being, and for my being able to have […]

Hello Friends. Happy Sunday. Or peaceful Sunday. Or maybe just “Sunday”, if that’s all you can handle from where you are at in your healing process. I absolutely get it. So, yesterday was a rare day where I didnt have any grief counseling sessions booked, didnt have to facilitate any groups, and didn’t have to […]

Yesterday, we had our Soaring Spirits Regional Group meetup. We do this 2x per month, and usually one is at a restaurant, park, or coffee shop type place; and the other is at a local library where we have a private large room, access to a kitchen, and we can bring food and drink and […]

Its Sunday, which means I write in here! And for once, I didnt forget! My widow brain seems to be a real thing as of late, even though its been over 12 years since Don died. I wonder – how long can we use “widow brain” as an excuse to just not be competent? How […]

Im exhausted. Like, really really tired. Ive been working two and three jobs for as long as I can remember, plus all my volunteer work, plus a million other responsibilities. Then a couple weeks ago, my husband Nick got pneumonia. He is on the mend now, but it took a couple weeks, and yesterday I […]

Just got home from our weekend at Cape Cod visiting my parents at their time share. On our way back, we stopped off and met my old high school friend Jenny and her husband for lunch, at a restaurant in the town we both grew up in. The weekend was filled with lots of rain, […]