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Overwhelmed

Posted on: September 4, 2023 | Posted by: Emily Vielhauer

Some days are just overwhelming.

Water stain on the ceiling.

Wednesday night we discovered a water stain forming on the living room ceiling. I inspected the boy’s bathroom upstairs and there were no signs of water. Next, I sent a picture to my parents since they had watched my kids Tuesday night while I went to The Chicks concert. A water stain is definitely something my dad would have noticed. We determine this must have formed in one day and make a plan for my dad to come over the next morning to investigate.

When I got up Thursday, I notice the stain is bigger than it was the night before. This sets me into the overwhelmed spiral. The what if’s of how bad and expensive the issue might be. How Tony is supposed to be here to take care of these issues. I am not supposed to still be calling in my dad to help. The way it makes me feel inadequate as a homeowner.

While I’m circling on this, I am trying to prepare for a work meeting and I’m dealing with scheduling issues for my son’s soccer team that I manage. By the way, I will NEVER be the team manager again. It is way more work than I anticipated and for me, it is not worth the discount. The soccer ‘issues’ feel so trivial compared to real life that I have little patience for it.

All these to dos in different areas of my life compounded and bubbled into feeling overwhelmed. When I get stressed and overwhelmed, I release it with tears. So, I sat at my desk and cried. Then I messaged a friend to share my woes and release a little of the steam. I had settled myself in time for my work meeting.

Photo by Elisa Ventur on Unsplash

By the time my dad arrived I was better. He confirmed the water was coming from the toilet and since there wasn’t anything noticeably wrong with it, he replaced all the guts and resecured it to the floor. The next day he came back and caulked the whole thing. Whatever he did worked. The stain on the ceiling stopped growing. Who knew fixing the plumbing could also fix my anxiety.

Categories: Widowed Parenting, Widowed Effect on Family/Friends, Widowed Emotions

About Emily Vielhauer

My name is Emily Vielhauer, I am 42 years old and have 3 knuckleheaded sons who are between the ages of 8 and 13. My husband, Tony, and I were married for 14 years and despite how things ended we built something great together.

April 19th, 2021 was the last day of my ‘before’ story. The day before I became a widow, before I was a solo parent to 3 boys, before I knew my love was suffering in silence, before suicide rocked my world, before I had to break the hearts of my children and all our friends and family, before I planned a funeral and delivered a eulogy, before I knew the true depths of my love for Tony and the way that love would be expressed through grief, so many befores.

My hope for this blog is to take you along with me as I navigate my life in the ‘after’ and that my words help someone else out there, whether they empower you or just let you know that you’re not alone out there.

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