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10 Months Ago

Posted on: August 29, 2019 | Posted by: Mari Posa

This week’s post from Mari shares some raw memories of the moments she shared with her husband in the hospital just after his death.  If you are feeling vulnerable in your own grief experience today, please either proceed with caution or know that as an act of self-care it’s OK to choose not to read today’s post.  

It’s been 10 months since I saw you leave this world. It still doesn’t feel real that you are no longer here. Flashbacks of that horrible day haunt my mind every day. I try not to think of it, but those memories keep coming back. I remember that day when the hospital nurse kept calling me to go see you. I didn’t even want to answer the call, because I knew you were leaving me. I didn’t want this to be true. I remember driving to the hospital to go see you with our baby girl. I remember being in a state of shock and disbelief that this was even possible. That you were not going to make it. All I kept hearing on that drive was our daughter say “papa, papa”, as we were going to you. I remember stopping at a stoplight, and something felt different. I looked at the sky and feared the worst. As I parked at the hospital, I couldn’t bring myself in to go see you. I knew that if I went in there, there was no going back. With help, I was finally able to enter the hospital. As I walked into the area to enter your unit, I saw two individuals standing in front of me. They said, “He passed away at 9:05 am”. 

My body, brain, and heart went into shock. My worst fear and reality had come true. You had left this earth. As they walked me to where you were, I sat outside your room with our baby in her stroller. I cried so much, and I couldn’t have the strength to face your lifeless body. I sat outside your room, which felt life forever. I finally walked into your room, and you didn’t look like the man I had said goodbye to that October morning. Part of me died that day. 

I remember seeing the look in your eyes, it was the same look my father had four months prior when he passed. It was a look of emptiness and peace. You were no longer struggling and suffering. I remember kissing the stubble on your face and feeling your cold cheek. To this day, I remember that moment and feeling exactly as I felt it that day. I could never touch you or feel your warmth ever again. My life from that day forward would never be the same.

Seeing you that day still haunts me every day. I will never understand why this happened, but part of my soul went with you that day. And part of it stayed here on earth, with our baby girl. It’s hard to live without you every day, but somehow, someway I am doing it. I want to honor you in the best way possible. And that is to be the best mother to our daughter. I want to enjoy her for the both of us, and raise her how we had talked about. Ten months ago, your physical body left us. But your love and the memories you gave us will forever and always be with me. Till we meet again, my love. 

 

Categories: Widowed Anniversaries, Widowed Emotions

About Mari Posa

I am a blessed woman with many shadows of darkness. I have met the love of my life, my best friend, and my soulmate. I have experienced motherhood and have triumphed in my career. I have built everlasting bonds, with people I love and respect. I consider myself blessed. With all those blessings, there are also shadows of darkness. I watched my father die as he held my hand and took his last breath. I lost many hopes and dreams as I buried the love of my life at the age of 31, just four months after burying my father. I left a stable and secure career for something much more significant, but then lost it all. I have seen immense beauty and extreme darkness in this life. I am a woman whose world was shattered into a million pieces, in what was supposed to be the best time of my life. Through love, learning, and therapy, I continue to move forward in this life with grief right beside me. I continue to honor those who have left this earth with pieces of my heart. I take one day at a time.

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