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Communication Breakdown

Posted on: May 29, 2025 | Posted by: Gary Ravitz

I grabbed my Android phone a few weeks back, only to observe that its familiar interface appeared different.  Quickly, I determined that a new, or at least a dramatically changed, operating system had been foisted upon me and that I had to accept it.  The change has been problematic.  Overnight, it seemed I had lost access to some contacts and important text and email functions.

***

I’m no “techie,’ but consider myself passingly competent using computer technology. Still, I acknowledge it is possible, even likely, that I had not lost any functionality, but rather, did not know how to access my “missing” features with this new and improved interface.

I would gladly have consulted my Android instruction manual for answers, but alas, there isn’t one.  (Did your iPhone come with a user’s manual?  I doubt it.) The lack of any straightforward “help” resources is a persistent and irritating issue with smartphone technology, especially, it seems, for older consumers. Instead, I was forced to seek technical assistance at the store where I had purchased my phone.

***

The young clerk sized me up. He proved helpful, if a little condescending due to my obvious advanced age.  Lots of people around this clerk’s age wrongly assume that there is a large cohort of doddering, mentally feeble, and physically disabled senior citizens –like me– who don’t get it and can’t be taught.

Here is one example of this sentiment I came across on the inter-Google:

“…old individual’s brain struggles with adapting how to learn new things because it needs to keep memory of things such as the moment with their childrens instead of remembering how to use high-tech devices.”

(This is an actual quote. I got the writer’s message yet was shocked by how poorly the sentence is written.)

Here are a couple more examples:

  1. “…senior people, they have a limited capacity to learn new technology…”
  2. “…older individuals tend to exhibit a reluctance to engage with complex technological tools. This can be attributed to two principal factors: cognitive decline and physical limitations.”

Contrary to these condescending opinions, older adults are far from reluctant or incapable when it comes to using technology. “Research and experience show that older adults can and are eager to learn new technology, as long as they see a need for it and are taught in ways that build confidence rather than exacerbating the stereotypes of technological incompetence.”  See Nash, OLDER ADULTS AND TECHNOLOGY: MOVING BEYOND THE STEREOTYPES (2019), found at https://longevity.stanford.edu/older-adults-and-technology-moving-beyond-the-stereotypes/.  Naturally, AARP concurs, finding in a survey that older adults are as likely as someone under fifty to own a smartphone, tablet, or other device. While older adults embrace technology, they are skeptical of artificial intelligence.  See https://www.aarp.org/pri/topics/technology/internet-media-devices/2024-technology-trends-older-adults/.  Interestingly, however, Newsweek reports that the youngest, and presumably most tech-savvy, members of Generation Z, likewise remain skeptical of artificial intelligence. See https://www.newsweek.com/gen-z-most-skeptical-ai-new-study-1951710 (9-10-24.)

The development of computing technology from the ancient abacus to today’s quantum computers has a lengthy and fascinating history.  See https://www.britannica.com/technology/computer/Time-sharing-and-minicomputers. As relevant to our discussion today, giant mainframe computers were first developed for use in  science and large-scale businesses during the 1960s, but before 1970, the thought of an individual having a personal computer was “viewed as far-fetched.”  Id.

In 1984, when the first Apple Macintosh computer hit the market, I was already in my mid-thirties. According to academics like Nash, this timing makes me a “digital immigrant,” in stark contrast to today’s youngsters, who are considered “digital natives.” Think of it as the difference between a native English speaker and someone who acquires English as a second language.

Nonetheless, as a computer refugee, I can almost guarantee that if someone were to produce a concise and readable “how to” manual for aging smartphone users, we would flock to it and make its developer wealthy beyond imagination!

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About Gary Ravitz

In relevant part, my musings are for me. It’s one of the ways in which I process losing my sweetest. Of course, Lee didn’t want to die. She had fought like hell, but the relentless cancers kept coming: Skin cancers; breast cancer; head and neck cancer; colon cancer; and finally, the deadly pancreatic cancer. In June 2020, and only after being pressed hard by Lee, her oncologist opined that my wife had from two weeks to two months left to live, turned on her heels and nearly sprinted from the hospital room, never again to be seen or heard from by us. I promptly removed Lee from the hospital and brought her home. It was the right thing to do and I only wish I had acted sooner over “the best” medical advice to the contrary. In fact, my sweet wife only had nine days left to live. At the final, she embraced her own death with great courage and unfailing kindness. It was a truly remarkable display of grace and wondrous to behold. It was my great privilege and honor to be with her every step of the way. And now, it’s my privilege to be able to write a few words to you each week. In a nutshell, I believe every journey is unique, but, hopefully, to know that you do not have to walk it alone can also be reassuring. And, along the way, you might hear a bit more information about me.
Gary

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