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A Happy Holiday

Posted on: December 26, 2024 | Posted by: Gary Ravitz

The gray, overcast, and snow-less Christmas morning had left me listless, especially after two or three virtually identical days preceding it. The gray seemed to get to Lola the Pup, who lolled nearby on the day bed watching me as I half-heartedly worked my arms and shoulders with the thick exercise bands.

Mont invited me to accompany him to his niece’s home for their traditional Christmas Day Chinese feast.  While I was gratified to be invited, he had assumed incorrectly that I had no holiday plans.

Lola and I were headed to Robyn’s house in the early afternoon. Her daughter was working at the hospital, and her granddaughter Sara was spending the first part of her holiday with her other grandmother before seeing her boyfriend and his family.  Lola and I would have to pass for today’s entertainment.

We arrive no sooner than Robyn presents Lola with a gift-wrapped, chicken-flavored rawhide bone. In our four years together, I have never given my dog such a bone, due to possible associated health hazards for the animal. Lola reacts excitedly, spinning, bounding, making small leaps, in a word, entertaining. If her tail had been the needle of a Geiger counter, she might have been signaling the discovery of the proverbial mother lode.

I surrender.  Like the character of Micheal Corleone in The Godfather, holding up one finger for emphasis, I sternly announce, “This one time….”  Lola gently picks up the piece of rawhide and saunters triumphantly outside to locate a spot where no one can take it from her.

Throughout the afternoon Lola will momentarily put down her rawhide bone if she spies an opportunity to snag a tasty morsel of human food. Robyn’s daughter accommodates Lola, who not only licks clean the bottom of Jill’s yogurt cup but gets a small sample of tuna fish in the bargain. For Lola, this might be her best Christmas ever!

***

In the comfort of her home, Robyn is whirlwind in constant motion. She barely sits to exchange gifts, bestow tender kisses, and nuzzles.

I’m content to loll on the couch, happily dozing, or half-watching a smattering of football and professional basketball games and pieces of a mindless new Netflix series called “Black Doves.”  Meanwhile, among other activities, Robyn finishes preparing a delicious holiday dinner consisting of sirloin roast, “twice baked” potatoes, broccoli, salad, hot coffee, and dessert.

By dinner time, Jill had gone to work at the hospital.  Now, it’s just the three of us — two people, one pup.  Far better than I deserve. A happy holiday indeed.

Categories: Widowed Holidays

About Gary Ravitz

In relevant part, my musings are for me. It’s one of the ways in which I process losing my sweetest. Of course, Lee didn’t want to die. She had fought like hell, but the relentless cancers kept coming: Skin cancers; breast cancer; head and neck cancer; colon cancer; and finally, the deadly pancreatic cancer. In June 2020, and only after being pressed hard by Lee, her oncologist opined that my wife had from two weeks to two months left to live, turned on her heels and nearly sprinted from the hospital room, never again to be seen or heard from by us. I promptly removed Lee from the hospital and brought her home. It was the right thing to do and I only wish I had acted sooner over “the best” medical advice to the contrary. In fact, my sweet wife only had nine days left to live. At the final, she embraced her own death with great courage and unfailing kindness. It was a truly remarkable display of grace and wondrous to behold. It was my great privilege and honor to be with her every step of the way. And now, it’s my privilege to be able to write a few words to you each week. In a nutshell, I believe every journey is unique, but, hopefully, to know that you do not have to walk it alone can also be reassuring. And, along the way, you might hear a bit more information about me.
Gary

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