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Edited Memories

July 10, 2018 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

As Sarah, Shelby and I near the time to depart for our summer vacation, I am reminded of just how different things were, and I am finding some appreciation of the very fact that as a widower, those differences weren’t always convenient.  We’re traveling to my favorite place on earth, the Great Smoky Mountains, at the end of July. Megan and I…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed by Illness Tagged With: memories, Long Term Illness, Mike Welker, perspective, vacations, compromise, widower

How-to: Mother’s Day

May 8, 2018 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

As Mother’s Day approaches, I always tend to think of Megan a bit more.  Many everyday things become somehow intertwined with a memory or anecdote about her, simply because she was Shelby’s mother.  Even mowing the lawn brings thoughts about the fact that she had to close all of the windows in the house due to the smell of fresh cut grass…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Parenting, Widowed Memories, Widowed by Illness, Miscellaneous Tagged With: memories, Long Term Illness, Mike Welker, widower with children, growing up, perspective, mother's day, widower

Make Your Past

April 17, 2018 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

What do I think about on these Tuesday mornings, 3 ½ years after Megan died?  It’s a question that I generally ask myself on the way into work, in preparation for publishing some kind of anecdote, observation, or predicament here on Soaring Spirits, in the hopes that a person will read and experience a “me too” or “oh wow, I never thought…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Parenting, Widowed Memories, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions Tagged With: widower, memories, Mike Welker, widower with children, moving forward, perspective, acceptance

Have a Friggin Holly Jolly Christmas

December 19, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

As we near Shelby’s 11th Christmas, what will be our third without Megan around, I’ve got my head down.  I’m powering through this week at work, excited more for the 4 day break from the monotony than any festivities.  Every activity, preparation, and event seems more like a “have to” than a “get to”.  Wrapping gifts, baking…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Memories, Widowed Holidays, Widowed Emotions Tagged With: widower, Stress, Mike Welker, Holidays, traditions, perspective, Christmas

Ramble On

November 7, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

On February 5th, 2015, I wandered into a Hotel in Tampa, Florida, not quite sure if I was supposed to be there.  I had lost Megan less than three months prior, and I hadn’t honestly accepted the fact that I was now a Widower.  In the year leading up to it, I had spent more time sitting next to my dying wife than anything else.   Like many of…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Therapy, Widowed Community, Miscellaneous Tagged With: sharing, Ramble, Trying, widower, camp widow, Mike Welker, time, writing, perspective, Risks, questions

Vows

October 31, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

I take thee, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness, and in health, until death do us part.   If he only knew what those vows mean.   He does though.  He always will.  Last Saturday, I stood as a groomsman at the very same altar where I was married to Megan.

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Effect on Family/Friends, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Milestones, Miscellaneous Tagged With: Mike Welker, religion, weddings, Vows, perspective, honor, Marriage, Church, widower, milestones, family

Onward and Upward

September 26, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

“The journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step” – Lao Tzu   It’s true.  It the most literal sense, one cannot achieve a goal, or complete a journey, without taking a step towards the goal.  No matter how trivial a task may seem, this quote is meant to bring perspective that even the most inconsequential of actions is needed to…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Emotions, Miscellaneous Tagged With: widower, Mike Welker, Metaphors, resilience, perspective, quotes, determination, Toughness

I’m an ADULT!

September 12, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

As I write this, Sarah is cruising at 30,000 feet over Indiana.  She’s en-route to Chicago, then Phoenix to spend 6 days with Drew’s mother at a conference.  We woke up early this morning to get her to the airport, then for me to get Shelby to school and myself on to work. For the next week, I’m back to basics.  I’m effectively a…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Parenting Tagged With: Solo, Caring, widower, Mike Welker, widower with children, perspective, trust, Adulthood, single parent, Apart

Widowmaker

August 29, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

I was planning, this morning, to write about the total solar eclipse that Sarah, Shelby and I witnessed just a week ago.  As we sat on the banks of the Oconoluftee River in North Carolina, at the foot of the Smoky Mountains and watched the sun disappear, I was speechless, awed, and felt transcendent. That was the plan, at least.  We had a family…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Memories, Miscellaneous Tagged With: harvey, Flooding, Donate, Storm, Disaster, widower, memories, Mike Welker, help, perspective, hurricane

White Noise

July 25, 2017 by Mike Welker Leave a Comment

I’m going to (try to) keep this short, simple, and to-the-point.  Megan’s birthday was yesterday…the third since her death.  She would have been 36, which, for someone born in the early 80’s with Cystic Fibrosis, is twice the normal life expectancy.   The first thing I thought of when I opened my eyes in the morning yesterday was…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed Parenting, Widowed Birthdays, Widowed Milestones, Miscellaneous Tagged With: widower with children, time, perspective, 3 years, White Noise, Adaptation, widower, birthday, Mike Welker

Post-traumatic Growth

June 15, 2017 by Stephanie Vendrell Leave a Comment

Did you know “post-traumatic growth” is actually a thing? A friend mentioned the concept to me recently and I made note of it, thinking it was a clever concept invented by us grief sufferers, but when I typed it in a search online, a bunch of very real psychological studies came up.   Mike used to say, repeating an oft-used phrase, that what…

Filed Under: Widowed Tagged With: perspective, surviving grief, stephanie vendrell, post-traumatic

Dealing with Resentment

April 16, 2017 by Sarah Treanor and Mike Welker Leave a Comment

I think grief is an even trickier thing as time goes on. It becomes more infused with your new life and sometimes it’s hard to even know when struggles are related to your grief or to other things. I’ll be honest, I think I’m still holding on to some resentment that this other life I wanted to have will never happen. Even if 99% of me wants…

Filed Under: Widowed, Widowed and Healing, Widowed Emotions, Widowed Therapy Tagged With: death, perspective, resentment, sharing emotions, widow, sarah treanor, loss, grief, coping

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